People who don't want you but don't want to let you go either

[Casperandme]

Why do people do this? Has anyone managed to understand? I'm at the end of this sort of situation and it really is horrid.

What are other people's experiences?

I know you just need to walk away and I am but it's been coming up two weeks now since the ghosting ended and right as I start to move on I get a drunk-on-a-Friday-night shall we meet message through another form to the one I'd blocked on, which has sent my progress back a step.

Most of all I just don't understand why you'd treat someone like this?

No me neither. I think its really cruel. I think when it happened to me I eventually started seeing someone else. I replied to one of his many text messages with something along the lines of I deserve someone who sees me as their plan a not plan b. He acyually replied 'fair enough'. So he knew exactly what he was doing.

Block!

I like that line - plan A not plan B.

Could you just delete the messages and never reply?

That's what I'm doing. It still perplexes and upsets me though

They do it because they enjoy controlling you. Having you dangling on a string boosts their ego.

I'm 9 years into this. Won't make any sort of commitment - even discuss a future that we can officially plan - yet wants me to share good times and bad ad infinitum. Can't understand how that makes me feel so 'not good enough'.

Breaks my heart as we are absolutely perfect together in every way.

Try an ex husband who six years after he cheated and got chucked out wont tell me his address so i can file for divorce even now he has the control, i dont see him i dont want to see him all i want is his address and the only way i can contact him is through his ebay account which he totally ignores my messages, do yourself a favour this guy has shown you what hes going to be like totally ignore any communication from him