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Original poster

I can't get my head around this?

6 replies

MissMimba · 06/10/2018 21:38

I will bring up a concern about the relationship but then it will always be twisted into being my fault.

It feels like my judgement is off because somehow I always seem to be in the wrong or it's my fault all the time.

It's like I can't say anything because if I do it will be turned on to me.

OP posts:
LadyMofMtsensk · 06/10/2018 21:42

I had a partner like this. Classic abusive behaviour.

woodhill · 06/10/2018 21:51

Yes, I can relate to this with my husband.

Original poster
MissMimba · 06/10/2018 21:58

It's like head spaghetti.

I've always misunderstanding, getting it wrong, not allowing myself to be happy or it's my fault entirely.

It's draining.

OP posts:
LadyMofMtsensk · 06/10/2018 22:03

Draining - and crippling. Often leads to anxiety & depression. Are you certain you want to stay in the relationship?

AynRandTheObjectivist · 06/10/2018 22:07

You don't need to get your head around it. You don't need to put up with it.

SandyY2K · 06/10/2018 22:35

Maybe it's time to end the relationship.

Otherwise it's wash.. rise...repeat.

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