In brief...married 8 years and two young dc. Basically since married weve had a few life traumas..culminating in the death of my mum just over a year ago which I'm struggling to come to terms with. I just feel me and dh have just drifted so so far apart. I dread weekends...we get on better when we have space from each other. I find he can be selfish with favouring playing on his sodding phone or watching sport to spending time with his kids. Don't get me wrong.. he is a wonderful dad in some ways but he, like me unfortunately, is short tempered and finds the constant mess and clutter frustrating. The biggest issue between us however is intimacy. The way I'm feeling at moment (anxiety and lots of down days) I could quite happily never have sex again. Couldn't care less about it. But i know that in some ways I'm being selfish...but should i really just do it to appease him?! He badgers me at least once a week for it which generally doesn't happen. Just can't make myself do it. If it wasn't for my dc...id be gone. The thought of splitting my family up makes me feel sick..but I can't go on like this. I'm sure from his pov there is plenty I do wrong..I get that it's not all one sided. Wtf do I do. Why did we go so badly wrong. Counselling? Maybe...but we have no one to help/look after the kids to let us do this. I'm so so fed up. Don't even know what kind of responses I'm looking for..I've just had enough.