Ex fiancé really dragging things out

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Just wondering if anyone else has been through this. He left me out of the blue for a very young co-worker. He has been gone for 3 months, he still has loads of belongings to collect and practical things we need to sort out. It's like he's in some bubble. I know people will say leave it outside or something but I can't do that and it's too much anyway. Why, when he left me would he drag it out so much? Anyone been through this?

Sort it out, give him a week to collect it or dump it at his mums house.

He doesn't have family in this country.

Why can't you dump it?
Give him a deadline and take it to the charity shop or something

Set a deadline say 4 weeks time, let him know that after that date it will be got rid of.

What are the practical things?

Give him a deadline to collect his goods and tell him if they're not collected they'll go to charity.

Yep. Pack until in bin bags...give him (via text fir proof)a couple of options of times to collect it and tell him if it's not collected by then it will all be disposed of.

Put it in storage -pay for one month and give him the details - he can do what he wants with it then.

Put in writing that he has 4 weeks to collect it or you will arrange one of those house clearer people to come and just take the lot and you will keep what ever they give you as a storage fee.

What sort of practical things?

He left you some someone else and now he’s using you for free storage! I agree with previous posters, bag it up and give him a date to pick it up. Hugs to you x

Hire a man with a van and get it dropped off at his place of work. You know he deserves it!

He's keeping his options open and is banking on you not getting tough to enable that.

Yes, give him a deadline to collect it. You're not a storage business.

Thanks everyone, I will give him a deadline. The practical stuff is just about bills and money owed and a few other bits.

Yeah I have not been tough enough at all, I know I haven't. I should have set a deadline at the start, I was just so shocked.

And he doesn't get his stuff back until he has ponied up for the bills.If he doesn't pay, eBay his stuff.

I wouldn't give him a month. He'd get a day at best, maybe two if I was feeling generous. Otherwise into the bin it goes.

What sort of stuff needs collecting? Is it big stuff like a sofa or things like clothes?

About 10 boxes of stuff

Tell him you will sell his shit if he doesn’t fork out for the bills he owes. Then mention Small Claims Court. Having a CCJ against him will make life very hard for him. Presumably he’s no longer paying rent? Is he off the tenancy agreement?

Yes off agreement and not paying rent.

I’d write the money off if I were you. It’s frustrating but it means you’re free of him, he’s obviously not going to pay you anything anyway. Give him 14 days to collect his stuff (at the most because he’s already had months) or it’ll be disposed of. Then sell anything you can and charity shop/bin the rest.