Anxiety over meeting OH’s family

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We’ve been together a year, and I’m meeting his family today. My anxiety is sky high. I’ve never had a family so never understood the whole family thing. I don’t want to go, but I know he wants me to come, and his family want to meet me. How to deal with the anxiety of meeting his family?! 😰 I’ve got two hours to get ready and still laid on the sofa thinking of different excuses. 🤦🏼‍♀️

Just be yourself and try to relax. I'm sure it will go well.

Get dressed, something you feel confident in, put on your best smile and get it done. Its never as bad as you build it up to be.
I get terrible nerves but sometimes I just have to give myself a little talk and fake the confidence ..... a friend at work says 'fake it til you make it' lol
Have fun

The dress and heels I’ve picked I absolutely hate 😣 It’s his cousins wedding we are going to, and ALL the family will be there. I literally don’t know a single person, and can’t even drink to take the edge away. He’s picking me up at 1, and just informed me his sister is coming along with him too as she can’t find in the other car 😐 #godhelpme

Why are you wearing something you hate?!

Dont fret too much i met my partners family in exactly the same circumstances, huge wedding in Essex all the family there , posh hotle, got there and our room wasnt ready so ended up getting changed in his moms room talk about straight in at the deep end, i just stayed sober, answered when someone spoke to me and i survived , good luck it wont be as bad as you thought

I think its a positive his sister will be im the car. By the time you get there you'll at least know one more person .... tell her your a bit nervous of such a large family event. I'm sure she and you partner will both look after you.

@ConkerTriumphant At 37 weeks pregnant I literally have a very limited wardrobe, everything I pick I hate, I’ve gone with the only dress I could find yesterday that I didn’t like but needed something to wear today 🤦🏼‍♀️ Hormones, anxiety and weddings clearly aren’t my thing 😅

On a positive I’ve called OH to say I’m anxious, and him and his sister are on the way now so I can get to know his sister first. She seems lovely and could hear her in the back ground shouting ‘just act crazy and you’ll fit in perfectly’

Remind yours why your partner loves you.

Wear something that makes you feel good and enjoy yourself. You are building this up too much. You are just meeting his family, not marrying him

Yourself*

@HereIgoagainxx I’m such an anxious person 😅 I think it’s hormones tbh, I’m fed up of pregnancy. I’m sure I’ll be fine once we get to the hotel and i’ll be in the background and no one will care I’m even there. Xxx

Awwww, lots of people suffer with anxiety. Tell your partner you are anxious and would appreciate a bit of extra support.

My tip for small talk: Ask people about themselves. Most people LOVE talking about themselves.

Oh, and the obvious one: don't drink too much

Good luck xx

No drinking for me, I’m been induced next week 😅 Could have definitely done with a glass of wine to take the nerves away.

37 weeks pregnant?! No wonder you’re anxious and you hate your clothes!!
Cheeky question - is it his baby? Did you get pregnant early on? His family will be keen to love you!

Yes his baby! I fell pregnant about 4 months into the relationship... had the coil fitted and never thought I’d end up pregnant... lesson learnt... no sex again for me, lmao!

You've been together for a year and you're 37 weeks pregnant.

Congratulations.....but you'd barely known him before you got pregnant.

It's an observation not a judgement ..but I do wonder about relationships like this and their longevity.

It was nice of his sister to say what she did...and the focus won't be on you as it's a wedding..so you'll be fine.

Cross post.

I got pregnant early. I had 2 toddlers with my ex husband (although I wasn’t even divorced). Been married 16 years now. It can work and it can be wonderful!
I hope your story will be as happy as mine, xxx13xxx