So lonely

[queenbee1722]

I dont have any friends.

I used to have a small core group of friends. We would get together all the time. Go out, have fun etc. It was perfect. Dont need lots of friends, just a handful of good ones.

I made a stupid decision last year which put a rift in the friendship. I gave people space, and they have turned their back on me. I apologised and got ignored.

I work a lot, which possibly also added to the strain. But now i have no one.

Its Christmas soon, and my birthday. Both would have been big celebrations with them. And now nothing.

I dont go out anymore. I dont really talk to anyone but my partner and immediate family.

I have work colleagues, but I couldnt confide in them like before.

I am so alone, and cant see anyway of getting out of this

I made a stupid decision last year which put a rift in the friendship. I gave people space, and they have turned their back on me. I apologised and got ignored

Just guessing here but did you shag someone's husband? Or vote ukip?

nothing that bad no haha!! its very long and complicated. the basics are i kept it hidden from them. well everyone. it got public and they felt betrayed i think.

Well your friends don't sound very loyal QueenBee, if they don't give second chances, especially after you have apologised.

I'm sorry to hear you are feeling low. If your workmates aren't potential friends, is there anything you can join? Church group? A hobby group? School group? Are your neighbours nice?

Can you join meet up? Are you city based or quieter?

its hard as i work a lot, dont think im doing myself any favours! its so hard putting yourself out there when your an adult. i’ll have to join some kinda group

Check out Facebook for local groups. There are lots of women in your position, I promise you.

I understand. I am often lonely in the friends sense and they are good at cancelling so I don't bother. No one ever fancies a night out, just coffee but the evenings are often the worst if I'm home alone

I've just had my birthday. I got 2 cards and spent it alone without having a single adult conversation.

You're not alone.

But at least you have a partner and work colleagues, so its not all bad. :)

Isn't there a work colleague you'd like to get closer too? Invite them for a drink?

Your not alone OP. Me too .

i am very lucky i have partner

Have you tried joining a cold, community group , choir etc ?

Club not cold.

Is there one of your friends from the group that you could approach after some time and try and reconcile with? It's awful they turned their back on you but they can't all be like sheep. Perhaps you could find something that you really enjoy and that you are passionate about (group, artsty stuff, sports or netball, wine clubs, supper cluns) and try and focus on your new hobby and meet new people that way. Or even do a course that's related to your career.
Alternatively how about reconnecting with old friends that you haven't spoke to for a while. It's really horrible to feel alone especially when you haven't particularly done anything to deserve it bit try and through your energies into something else. Xx

Oh I've had my 40th with no cards or acknowledgement. All my family are dead and I have no partners. Strangely I only started to feel lonely recently just as my son is getting older. You have to be pro active.

I’m in the same boat so understand how you feel. It’s my birthday soon and I have no friends to be sociable with on the day. It’s quite depressing and I’m not really sure how to get myself out of this friendship rut. I try really hard to meet new people but it just never works out for me. I think I must be a really odd person :(

I think I must be a really odd person

This is how I feel too.
I think I'm a decent enough person, I'm not aggressive or a bigot etc, but people it seems people did it hard to get in other me.

Cawfee when's it your birthday? It's mine soon.
I have a husband who is wonderful, but he can't be glued to me nor me him.
Where do we all live? I'm south London x