Do you and your DP have different parenting styles?

[ladybee28]

DP has a son who's 12, with us EOW and 2 afternoons per week.

Getting used to the dynamic of 3 has been a journey for all of us, which I think we've navigated pretty well, all things considered.

I've never wanted kids before, but I'm starting to feel just the tiniest rumblings of a 'maybe'.

DP loves his DS to the ends of the earth, and on the whole is a really wonderful parent. But he also parents in a number of ways that I don't agree with. Some of it is 'Disney Dad' and situation-related, and I don't think he'd be the same with a child who lived with us full-time.

But other parts of it are definitely just 'his style', and it's got me wondering: how many sets of parents are really, fully 'on the same page' with how to raise kids, and how many are working to find a balance?

How much do you and your partner agree on how to raise kids, and how do you parent around the issues that you don't agree on?

We have completely different styles, he feels like he is the Alpha male and that DD’s should do what he says! In the real world they don’t, they are teenagers and it just doesn’t work like that! I hate his style and it causes lots of tension in the house. He says I don’t back him up, I don’t and won’t when I think he is being unreasonable! So no advice from me I am afraid!

We are similar actually apart from he is a lot softer (and lazier) than me! I think he is a great parent though- he doesn't shout at the kids and isn't strict but will talk to them to get his point across and I love that about him..even though it means I have to be bad cop sometimes. I would hate it if he was shouting and strict with them like some dads seem to be. He teaches them random stuff about fish and animals and stuff.

We have the same ideals in theory, but I think we put those into action differently. If that makes any sense!
I will say that our parenting evolves as ds gets older and we realise more and more the importance of unity.