Background:
Iv been with my partner 10 years. Not married but we have a mortgage together. 2 kids 7&5 together and he has an older daughter who’s 10 that we have eow.
I’m 29 and he’s 33.
We have been together basically my whole adult life but I’m not happy anymore - there is no one else!
I don’t think Iv been happy for few years. I have said to my partner that I’m not 100% happy with us but I know he loves me and I feel so guilty ending the relationship.
A couple of reasons I’m not happy is:
Miss matched sex drives. Mines higher, his lower.
He always moans I don’t do enough around the house, usually comes to a head every few months when he has a massive go at me and ends in silent treatment. (He works 5 days a week, I work 2. Our youngest has severe autism which is why I haven’t upped my hours since both kids are at school now)
He doesn’t really like me going out for nights out and although doesn’t say anything I can generally tell he’s moody about it. Although this has got better recently.
And finally I just don’t think I love him like I should anymore. I used to really love him years ago but now the thought of him cheating on me doesn’t even make me feel sad.
I would feel horrendously guilty though if I ended it. What can I do? Do I give it more time and hope my feelings change or should I end it? Somehow?
Has anyone ever ended a long term relationship with kids involved and it has turned out ok in the long run. I feel so guilty.
Sorry about my bad grammar etc. I’m on a phone and my son smashed the screen by throwing it today 