I want to end my relationship but can't

[Madidas]

Anyone in the same boat?

I just don't love her in a romantic way. I live her to bits but I'm so tired.

I can't leave because it wouldn't be me leaving. It's my house. She moved in with my children. If I ended it she would have no where to go. No furniture. Nothing.
Also finances. I am disabled and if she leaves I will be made to go on universal credit and she won't have a penny to start over. It's such a mess.

I don't want to hurt her. She's been hurt so many times before and I do love her. There's just no spark. No connection. It's so platonic.

I feel so sad.

Do you think she feels the same?

No, I don't think she does. We talk about it, we say we will make the effort to change, we outline our needs and within 48 hours Its back to the same.

I wish I could wave a magic wand and fix things but it just feels too far gone now.

She must have an idea if you discuss it together surely?

I wouldn't want anyone to stay with me out of pity.

Its not pity. It's love but not the kind it should be.

She knows I'm unhappy. She is too. She says she can't keep going on like this but she also says she won't be the one to throw the towel in.

Do you have to split?
Why not continue to live together as friends ?

Small that could be an option. We are friends. I wouldn't want to lose her.
My kids love her and we share every thing from money to shoes.

Is there any possibility within your home for you both to have your own space? EG sofabed in lounge if no spare bedrooms.

I would normally say "Ach just fuck her off" but with a disability for one partner it's a lot more difficult.

She moved in with my children
Are these children you've had together, or are they yours from a previous relationship? How old are they? Is she providing any sort of meaningful care for them, if they are not hers?

Previous relationship and she is wonderful with them. They adore her. She is poorly too so we are quite dependant on each other.

Do you want to have a romantic relationship with anyone? If not, why not continue with this as a platonic relationship. You love and care for each other and your children, which is a damn sight better than a lot of marriages!