My mil doesn't think we can manage without her.
We've got dts and they are 9 months. They are happy and healthy and we are doing fine as parents.
I take them to groups etc.
I invited her to a baby group the other day because I thought she'd be able to help a little bit/provide a better experience for my dts - she said "how do you manage this usually? laughed tutted you leave one on their own don't you?"
It's like she's trying to insinuate I'm doing them a disservice not having her around constantly.
When they were born she'd come round unanounned and say that she was looking after them so I could have a break. I was in the middle of doing something with dts and didn't need to do anything. My dh is on my side and had a chat with her about it. She doesn't come over at all now 🙄 - what's so difficult about texting before coming over?
We used to be close before we had dts. Now I feel like she wants to kill me (it's a vibe I get).
On the weekends , we spend time as a family. My dh and out dts. She is always on facebook and never comments or says anything nice about our photos (she did previously).
I don't like her even though she helps with dts. I only feel it's nice when I want help. Otherwise it makes me feel anxious and annoyed.
Just wanted a moan really. I feel like a really bad dil when all I want is for her to respect that we are a new family and she's had her chance. My dh doesn't invite her over and I don't feel like it's my place to take care of her need to feel welcome. I am always polite to her face.