Not going anywhere

[onemoresmartie]

Is it worth ending a relationship if it isn't going anywhere?
I see and hear of so many couples moving in together, making plans, going on holiday etc
Little things like buying sofas together and choosing wallpaper etc
My other half and I don't live together at the minute and logistically I don't see how that will really ever work as he doesn't want to move to my home town and has made that clear and so the only choice would be to give up my council house and move my son schools and I just don't know if I can/want to do that.
My partner is a chef and doesn't settle anywhere for a long period of time and it just doesn't seem viable that we would move to where he is 30-45 minutes away and leave my friends and family where I am.

We get on great but I am 30 and think I want someone to build a life with etc and I just don't think that will ever be with him.

Do I just give up now?

I should add we have been together 3 years

Yes, give up now.

Make it clear that for security for your child and yourself you will not be giving up your council house and relocating and talk to him about this. If you don't feel reassured after then it is probably more sensible to finish now.

Don't give up you and your son's secure home, family and friends for a man with a history of not settling. That's just nuts! Are you prepared to uproot your son every time he gets itchy feet? What will you do if you split up?

You want a partner to build a life with. You already seem to know that's not going to be him.

He won't move to you. If you move you and your ds would be in a very vulnerable situation. Getting on 'great' doesn't seem like a good enough reason to move for a man who is expecting you and A CHILD to do ALL the sacrificing.

Have you had this conversation with him??

My OH is a chef, that didn't matter when it came to whether we moved in together or not :S

We have had a lot of chats about it. He says he would love to live with me but he doesn't drive and so he usually goes for live-in positions tho at the moment he has a place literally a stone throw away from where he works.
Out of interest does your OT work in a pub or a restaurant? Another issue for me is that he spends his life at the pub even when he's not working and doesn't seem to be able to get a good work life balance. wondering if you have the same?