I can't believe that I find myself writing this. I have been with my partner for almost ten years, we have a one year old and ever since his birth I can count the number of times on one hand that I have felt unsupported and he has called me nasty names.
Yesterday really tops it off and I'm left feeling confused..what am I doing wrong? And totally stuck tbh.
My grandmother is gravely Ill (I have been very close to her all of my life). Sadly I don't live in the same city as her so yesterday with my DC we went to visit her and it was just so sad as you can imagine. On my way home I got stuck for 40minutes in the car -not moving due to a broken traffic light and this was incredibly stressful as you can imagine. By the time I made it home I noticed that my partner wasn't home but the gate was wide open and a light was on which I found disconcerting. I had left the house key under something for my partner because he lost his key so I panicked slightly which led to me phoning partner (he answered after the six time) and saying 'where the hell are you' I understand that this was abrupt but think it's excusable considering the circumstances. Anyway, this led him to shout 'don't you dare talk to me like that' to which made me angry and I said something along the lines of 'how dare you.'
To shorten the story - he called me a 'c*' when I got home, said I had no idea how to talk to people and that I had an awful sense of humour. For the whole night he said nothing else to me but had enough energy to speak to his friend on the phone and laugh with him.
Sorry for the long post. Would you call this emotional abuse? I'm feeling so blurred and confused right now. I never would have ever considered using that word in my relationship before, not ever. Why now?