Do you trust everything hubby says no matter what?

[jackio2205]

So I'm trying to keep it short and sweet, but do you compleeeeeetely trust your husband?
Not neccessarilly with woman, more drinking or casual drugs? How much they've had, if they've had any? Even if you suspect do you believe what they've said?
I don't, but I'm okay with it and dont know if thats a good thing?
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FYI- This chat isnt for you if you don't dabble in either, please no judgementals FFS

Yes, he has no reason to lie to me. Perhaps because he did some recreational drugs in the 70's then he grew up. He doesn't lie about alcohol, why would he?

The only reason people lie is to hide things. That's either because they are doing wrong, like snorting lives of coke every day, or because they are afraid of someone else's reaction, like they had 4 pints and get moaned at so say next time they are out that they only had 2

Yeah see I would be pissed off and maybe moan but surely the agg of me being suspicious is worse than lying?

I trust DH, he’s given me no reason not to.
Don’t think I’ve ever questioned him about such things though, he’s a sensible fellow.

No

I think he would certainly lie about small things that he thought were inconsequential so as not to make me worry or get angry at him.... but I think he would tell the truth if pressed and I think hed tell the truth about anything important.

The problem is that sometimes I dont think the same things are inconsequential as him!! Such as smoking a few cigarettes on a night shift when hed 'given up'!!
Or letting my slightly drunk friend drive him home.... when he had agreed to walk!

He did tell the truth about these things when pressed its just he did not volunteer this info.

But I know he would never lie or hide something from me if he believed it to be important himself.

Sadly though I do think smoking and getting in a car with someone over the limit is very important and he doesnt! So that has caused arguments....

See mine has and tries to prove to me things are different, and they are, but not because he tells me, but because i know from his behaviour. When theres a slip up and i ask him he questions why i dont trust what he says, and my answer is that his actions dont tell me the same as what he says

@madeoficecream thats it exactly, i get that completely!!!

I’m split on this one. Whilst I generally trust DH I wouldn’t put it past him to tell me he’s had 2 pints when it was really 5 if he thought I’d tell him he’s an idiot because he’ll be up with the kids at 6am while I go to work. That said, I’d probably laugh at him and tell him I hope the kids are extra loud in the morning. It wouldn’t bother me either.

do you know what for me, sometimes I dont care because it saves me from worrying iyswim? Like I sort of have a feeling hes maybe got up to more than hes let on in terms of what hes taken/done at an event.... but in not offerring that info to me I dont then have to go on a rant about how irresponsible he is and how he should act his age blah blah.... because really hes a grown man and can do what he wants as long as it doesnt actually effect the rest of his life.....
But if he actually tells me in detail I would feel obliged to have words lol

I trust my DH with almost everything except alcohol.

@madeoficecream yup i agree, i get that.
Perhaps the issue is that i need to stop being a naggy bitch 😂. I literally cannot help myself sometimes, especially when i knoooow him so well i know what he's going to do before he's bloody done it 😂

@Reaa same hun!

i knoooow him so well i know what he's going to do before he's bloody done it

This

He lies, you know he lies and him lying isn’t a deal breaker and the point of this thread is what?

This is who he is, accept it or move on but expecting him to be different when he doesn’t see his behaviour as problematic, is futile.

Around alcohol and drugs...yep, absolutely. We occasionally (think once or twice a year) take drugs, in super safe circumstances, only take drugs that have been tested for actually being what they say they are, only when we don't have the children for a couple of days...etc etc.

I absolutely trust him to be as safe around drugs and alcohol as we have discussed...I wouldn't be with him if I thought for a second he would lie about his use.