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I'm just so tired

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snurfflepots · 03/10/2018 22:47

We've been together 8 years, married just over two and I can't picture spending the rest of my life like this.

We don't have sex, we don't go on holidays, it's battle to get him to go out on the weekends and every time he does something in the house he goes on and on like he's doing me a favour.

We're currently not talking, not for any discernable reason but we've not said more than two words to each other in 24 hours. He's been glued to a screen all night and then went downstairs to cook himself some tea. I'm just sat on the bed resigned to this life.

He does have so many positive sides, truly, but we're just fumbling along like roommates and I fear the love is fading. It wasn't like this a couple of years ago at all. We had (very) regular passionate sex, we laughed, we had big plans... Then life seemed to give us a good kicking and we sorta gave up.

We both say we want to get back to that, we talk about it until we're blue in the face but nothing ever changes...

Help! I'm exhausted and I just want my relationship back.

OP posts:
tigerlionness · 03/10/2018 22:49

I personally wouldn't continue this relationship.... but that said is it worth a bit of couples counselling?

glitterystuff · 04/10/2018 04:40

If life gave you a good kicking, is it possible he's (and you are) depressed?

Perhaps some counselling as tiger suggested, might help.

Seems like you both want it to get better and stay together but are finding it genuinely difficult to get from intention to action. Classic depressive symptom right there...

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