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When is it too much/a threat?

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Gypsyboy · 03/10/2018 21:02

I've posted before on behalf of this friend but I'm feelling especially bad for her today. It's making me sad that she is in what imo is denial

My friend's fiance (been together 6 years) is attracted to a woman at work. He's admitted it and that he's had a physical reaction to her before. I have no idea about the woman, other than he thinks she finds him attractive too but as he's taken, isn't going to act on it either. My friend's partner does definitely love her and their dc but I think she's in denial that this woman isn't a threat.

If I thought someone I worked with was attaracted to me then I would do what I could to avoid them. Friend's fiance is now working even closer with this woman than before where he now is directly above her when that wasn't the situation last month. Friend says he is treating her as he would anyone, but I've said he hasn't mentioned he's attracted to any one else. He's all for honesty...I said I don't think little chats about the book she's reading or bands they both like are appropriate, considering he's attracted to her

I've not been this harsh with my friend, but I really do think she's in denial that the attraction to someone else is a threat but maybe I'm just projecting...when is an attraction too much/a threat?

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Catastic · 06/10/2018 11:05

Each relationship is different I suppose with different levels of what is considered acceptable.
Your friend is lucky to have someone who is looking out for her.
It's really up to her to decide what she is prepared to tolerate. I would not be happy with my husband messaging someone he is attracted to.

Gypsyboy · 06/10/2018 19:53

Messaging?

I just feel bad for her, I wouldn't accept it in a relationship. Apparently after talking to me she asked him if they'd ever talked about anything she wouldn't be happy with and he said they'd had a conversation about women and he'd showed her a photo his photographer brother took of an arty nude woman. She was not happy with that

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