Four months ago I met a guy online. He was so keen to start with and we went on some lovely dates. He really put the effort in and we had some great times together. In the beginning he showered me with compliments constantly and said I was exactly what he was looking for. He told me very on that he had been hurt repeatedly in the past and that he has had a difficult life,
Which gets brought up a lot (red flag?)
Since then we’ve fallen into a pattern of going to each other’s houses, having dinner and usually having sex (when he wants to have sex). we do sometimes go out for breakfast or lunch at the weekend but there’s never any motivation from his side to go out and do something fun like we did in the beginning. It’s been like this for a month now and he just says he’s short of money at the moment.
He sends me gushy texts still but he’s started calling me several times during the day to offload his problems. He’s having a hard time at work and he’s got into the habit of moaning to me. Since I’ve been with him he has changed jobs twice as he didn’t like his work colleagues. I’m bored of listening to the same old shit everyday. There is always some sort of problem in his life. Towards the end of the conversation he will ask how I am and without fail as soon as I’ve talked for a bit he’ll make an excuse to end the call, something like ‘tell you what, you can tell me all about that when I see you.’ Sometimes when he calls me he’ll be in a bad mood and say it’s because he’s having a shit day, I feel like a therapist. I’ve stopped answering a lot of his calls and explained I don’t have time for it.
Whenever I go to his house it’s like he’s stopped making effort with his appearance. Hes always in old clothes whereas in the beginning he dressed so smart and smelt nice. He sat next to me on the sofa at the weekend picking out clumps of nose hair 
I mean isn’t this supposed to be the honeymoon period? I always make myself look nice when I see him but he dresses like a tramp and doesnt seem to care When we first started dating he used to say “wow you look lovely” or something when he saw me but those sort of compliments are getting fewer and fewer.
I thought this was all a sign he was going off but he’s since announced he wants me to be the mother of his children! I mean, what the hell is going on here?!
The positives are that we have a really good laugh together, he is funny, he can be very affectionate and sweet. In the beginning I thought he was fab but I’m starting to feel like a mug. I deserve more than this don’t i?