Confused about my relationship. Been dating a bloke I met on Pof for a month - I have 3 DC's and am 5 years out of a relationship with their DF.
He's ten years older than me, has had no prior long term relationships (party due to having a job where he was on the road for 7 months of the year for 20 years, partly due to having some sexual disfunction resulting from a spinal cord injury - this left him infertile) and no kids. His last sexual relationship of any kind was 5 years ago.
The sex "issue" is not problematic for me, he's open and honest about it and our sex life is most enjoyable.
He pursued me, he initiates most of our dates but he's very content in himself and may be the eternal batchelor. Has a busy and interconnected life, often hooking up with old uni mates and their families. When we are not together he's not a great texter and we may go a day or two without contact but we always have the next date set up and have not been longer than a week without seeing each other, it's normally only 4 days or so. We stay over with each other but dates are not just about leaping into bed... We go out for meals, cinema, play pool etc. and have spent a weekend together just doing normal things.
He always wants to see me again but he's not one for compliments and never says "you look nice", we've had no conversation about dating or being exclusive (but neither of us are seeing anyone else). He's just gone off for a week overseas to pursue a hobby with a bunch of his old uni mates (all married with families). He's told me all his movements for the next two weeks and we've an evening date and a free weekend together lined up for when he's back.
He didn't ask at all what I'll be up to in his absence though so he seems a little disinterested but he remembers tiny details about convos we've had and brings them up (in a good way) and remembers my likes and dislikes. He has not told his close friends that he's seeing anyone and our relationship has not yet involved meeting any of either of our friends. He will likely text whilst away every couple of days to ask what I've been up to.
I can't decide if he's just not that into me, an eternal batchelor or totally unused to relationships... He claimed on his dating profile to be looking for love and a relationship.
I like him very much but can't work out if I'm just lining myselfup for a world of heartbreak.
Would you pick up on the red flags and run or bide time and see what happens?