Any tips apart from usual (exercise, hobbies etc) to focus on me and kids and not knob head abusive STBXH. I'm usually on top of my game when it comes to not giving him headspace but at the moment he's taking up far too much of it!! Is it possible because I'm planning on seeing sol in the next few weeks to get letter sent to him with my terms for divorce that this is why he's in there more than he should be allowed? As kids involved unfortunately have to stay in very minimal contact too.... it just bugs me to see phone flash up with his name (which in my phone is down as Twat 
) and I'm wondering if he will hijack even more headspace when divorce gets rolling......