Parents and new partner

[Pigeonpies]

Hello!
This isn't a massive issue, but something that's been bugging me for a few months and I'm seeking some advice please :)

I'm divorced with a child and have been with my new partner for 2 years now. We don't live together, he has a child also.

My parents have met him a few times, been out for dinner, over their house etc... but here's the thing that bugs me. My parents don't make any effort when it comes to birthdays or Xmas. They didn't get him a birthday card ( wasn't expecting a present) or Xmas card, or his child a card, even though I dropped quite a few hints about it being their birthday soon.

When I was married they used to pay attention to stuff like this and there would be presents etc... I guess I feel like, they haven't accepted him? My partner and I live in different cities and I do spend my free weekends there ( most of the time) and my mum has mentioned this a few times, I suspect she feels like I spend all my time there (which I don't)

His parents are the complete opposite, bought my child birthday, Xmas and even Easter gifts, and bits for my birthday.

I guess I feel a bit embarrassed that he might be feeling unaccepted.

I don't know how to approach the subject, if at all with my family without offending anyone?

We're not at all materialist, so this has nothing to do with that, it would just be nice to know that they've considered him and his child, as they are both a big part of my life.

Perhaps his parents feel closer to you than yours do to him.

Some people also don't take relationships that seriously if you're not married or living together.

Like Sandy said there are no overt signs of a lifetime commitment and your parents maybe unsure of the protocol, if there is one.

Tbh I think his parents behaviour is possibly less of the norm 2 years into a non cohabiting relationship. It would have been downright gratuitous in the first year and in the second, well a nice thing for them to do. I’m not sure it sets a precedent your parents have to follow.

But they’re your parents, so maybe you need to explain how serious the relationship is as it may not be obvious to them. I think this is reasonable if you don’t live together or even in the same city. Even then I am not sure why they would be obligated to buy presents for his child or for him, especially him.