Recorded husband, what do I do next..

[takingflight2018]

I need some advice, we are in a very rubbish place marriage wise, talking about getting help..

but the last few weeks I've been getting very upset about the way dp turns really nasty in his tone of voice towards me, about numerous subjects, I'm just having to watch what we talk about.

But whenever I say "that was quite nasty, or abrupt" he just simply brushes it off, so this morning thinking I might be a bit sensitive I recorded our conversation, I raised an issue about his job, got half way through my sentence and he cut straight in with his aggressive response.

So now what? I've listen to it about 6 times through the course of the day getting gradually more upset and each time it's just reaffirmed that I'm not going mad, he's actually just a rude abrupt person.

So my question, do I play this to him? Do you think that will help him realise what I'm hearing maybe. I'm a bit unsure why I did it? And converted that this really is just the final nail in the coffin of my marriage.

@MortyVicar - ok so if I let you know he found the counciler I was shocked at how expensive they were and i found a different local, cheaper one and suggested it last week he outright said no, we need to go to the best one.. he'd called them for a consultation.

I'm going to listen to you amazing people and get my own booked, I need to get this in perspective.

Sorry my spelling is awful councillor

Start a journal as well. I couldn't believe some of the conversations happened, especially when he would switch to nice mood. Looking back I could not ignore my reality.

Walking on eggshells is likely to make you feel very unwell, mentally and physically.

@lifebegins50 I've done this for the last 2 years, I have an email in a draft folder on an account he has no knowledge of, and I write down my frustrations.. when I'm upset and what's happened.

I just dip into it when I'm upset and log things, I do go back to read it some days. But I can't really share this all in real life, everything just seems so silly, until it's all together in one place.

Please get out now-for you and your child’s sake! I came from a home with verbal,emotional and physical violence and it isn’t anything you want a person,such as your son who you love to experience. It’s pure hell