Twat Sometimes

[Tighnabruaich]

That's what my husband said I was. I don't know if he's right - although I have a sneaking suspicion he is.
We came back from holiday at the weekend and were waiting for the courtesy bus to take us back to our hotel where we had left the car for the three weeks we were away.
I phoned the hotel from the airport to say Mr Husband's Name and party had landed. They directed us to where to wait for the courtesy bus.
Husband asked why I had used his name when it was me who had booked and arranged it all.
I said, no, I booked the hotel. You organised the parking. So then a furious, heated argument took place in the airport car park, occasionally dropping to a hiss when people walked by.
I remembered him filling in the car details for the hotel and I assumed he had done it in his name (we are married but I kept my own name, hence different surnames).
He said, no, he had just filled in a form with the car registration number and everything was in my name.
So a fairly pointless argument really but we were tired after a long (and delayed) flight. He kept going on and on and on, and eventually he shut up.
When we got the car out of the hotel car park he showed me the documentation - it was in my name. He said 'have you got anything to say?'. I said 'no, nothing at all'. He said, you are such a twat sometimes.
I should have said 'you were right and I was wrong', shouldn't I?

Jesus, what a horrible way to converse, yeah you slipped up slightly, hardly the end of the world, the way he speaks to you is disgusting; he sounds abusive OP, if anyone is a twat, it's him.

No! You’re not psychic.

He’s blown a simple incorrect assumption WAY out of proportion.

Does he always speak to you like this?

Urgh, do you speak to each other like this?

Sounds like quite a toxic relationship. And way out of proportion from both of you.

Does it really matter who is 'right' about something so trivial?

He sounds horrible

I receive similar treatment sometimes! Sometimes much worse! He’s been told to move out! I derserve more and so do you! X

I find it hard to apologise even when I'm in the wrong.
It was a stupid thing to argue about, and no, he doesn't speak to me like this at all.
We'd had a very strange incident on the plane which saw us delayed on the tarmac for over an hour, we were both tired and hungry. Not that I'm downplaying the 'twat' comment.
What should have been a short discussion became a marital tiff.
In fact I had booked the hotel and parking together and forgot/hadn't realised/couldn't care less.

He asked why I'd used his name to describe our party and not mine, and confusion ensued.
But yes, it was a simple incorrect assumption and everything blew up way out of proportion.
But what do people think about someone who never apologises, even when they are in the wrong - not about something as daft and trivial as this incident - but bigger ones too.

So if you don't apologize even when wrong, no wonder he's a bit frustrated with you. No one likes people like that. Maybe try and accept blame when it's due and do the adult thing and apologize when needed. It's easy to avoid arguments when you try to.

I'd say they're a twat sometimes.

@SpoonBlender point taken!

What a ludicrous thing to argue about.

Is this a reverse OP? Because surely it’s obvious how people feel about people who never apologise even when they’re wrong.

people who don't apologise when they are wrong are arrogant, irritating and frustrating.

Ridiculous argument, hopefully borne from holiday travel stress (we almost all get that!) and not signifying anything deeper.

But being unapologetic when wrong on something so trivial does seem like it has deeper roots. You really should work on that.

Both apologise to each other. He should for calling you a twat. Is he perhaps annoyed about something underlying?

Stupid thing to argue about and I can understand not wanting to apologise after he made such a massive deal out of nothing.

However, if you never apologise for being wrong then that can be frustrating too. But then, if he's usually this petty, I wouldn't apologise either.

But you weren't wrong, you didn't book the car/hotel, he did. If he didn't tell you he'd booked it in your name, how the fuck were you supposed to know?!

Daft argument probably caused by tiredness.

However if you don't apologise, even when you are wrong, you clearly can be a twat sometimes.

But isn't everyone a twat sometimes. Me, dp and all my friends point out when someone is being a twat/dick/wanker. I am never offended and can accept that sometimes I am those things. Dp, accepts it too and so does my best friend. So maybe I am coming at it from different angle, because everyone I know knows they can be twatty and quite happy to have it pointed out.

@Agentornika - no, it was me who booked everything, in my name. Not him.

@Notacluewhatthisis - you're right, we can all be twattish at times. We've since chatted, and agreed that we were both tired, stressed, hungry and that made the minor issue seem so important. He usually calls me 'Penguin', so to be told I'm a twat 'sometimes' was surprising!