Does anyone else's partner witter on incessantly about work?

[meanieleanie]

Name changed as I'm sure I'm being mean.

But OH is driving me BONKERS. Every day I get the most detailed run down of everything that's he's done at work in minute detail. In and outs of systems and faffy stuff and IT things that I don't understand. I DON'T CARE AND I DON'T NEED TO HAVE THIS LEVEL OF DETAIL!!

Just me or anyone else similarly afflicted?!

Does he listen to your stories about what you did that day?

I feel your pain.

My DH is a workaholic and wants to talk about it all the time. Last night he even said he wants me to meet all his colleagues so I know who he's talking about when he witters on 🙄

Yes he used to but I did snap as it was hours and hours of detail and just when he’d stop a little chuckle would come out and he would start again. He just didn’t realise he was doing it. So now we have a back and forth about work over cooking dinner usually half an hour then nothing else unless he is massively stressed then of course im there to offload on to.

Oh yes! Non stop from when he gets in
We used to have a "15 minute each" rule- but now I've retired he is getting resentful that he can't retire yet and it's now my job to listen and sympathise
Which I don't!!

I 100% hear you!! 🤣

My DH is definitely guilty of this. He works in a very technical field and I can't even understand most of what he's saying but he doesn't let that stop him

Yes, whatever conversation we ever have always turns into his work, even when we were supposed to be having conversations about our relationship, he will turn it into work. It really gets me down
He asks about my day, but I don't think he is really interested, and to be honest I like to leave my job behind when I leave the office.

My mum does this in minute detail. I hate it

Dh does it when he's stressed. Has a good old rant about it all when he gets in. Once he's got it off his chest he's ok though. Just needs a bit of a vent.

Oh my god yes down to the nitty gritty details of every deal 🙄 I DON'T CARE!!

Yep, drives me nuts.

Usually I give her 10 minutes or so and reply with "What an interesting work related anecdote!" which generally puts an end to it.

I on the other hand will not talk or even think about work when I'm at home. Drives DP nuts that there's 8 hours of my day that she knows absolutely nothing about. DD seems to be following on from me though, tells us nothing about school so I'm starting to see how irritating it can be!

haha yes! And its always about how everyone else was being sooooo stupid... or sooo soft and he had to get things done etc etc

He works in medicine and has to asses and find beds for people (without being too specific) and so he has A LOT to talk about at the end of the day...
And then theres also the political rants....

Im a SAHM and if I start to talk about anything I have done during the day his eyes just glaze over....

Thankfully he has quite an interesting job really so im not bored listening...and I use to wokr doing a similar thing so I can join in the conversation..... but I do think its funny because its always the same rant/spiel hes got going on and I do take the piss out of him a bit about it... I do sort of find it quite cute though all in all

ExH used to talk at me about his work. I hated it.

Me and dp both do the same work so we quite happily chat about it.

Really? I like to talk about work to DH. And I like to hear about his day. Its a way of keeping in touch with what we are doing away from each other. I am sure he finds my work boring but he still has the decency to listen while I go on about it.

My ex used to ALL THE TIME, every single detail, and then he would go on a tangent as well! Like someone upthread, once work is done for the day, I forget about it. I'm not deluded and fully realise nobody gives a shit so don't talk about my work. He would kick off about it claiming I must be leading a secret life outside the walls of our house, the knob. Good job I left him!

I don't mind. He's in a new job and is finding it exciting so I listen.
I don't care one jot about his triathlon times however which he also goes on about quite a bit.
I never used to talk about my job too much as he used to worry about what I was dealing with and it would keep him awake at night ( emergency services).

We have pretty much identical jobs in different organisations so for me it's a blessing.

Fuck yes and it drives me nuts! Arrrrgh! Even when we go on a date!

SHUT UUUUUPPPPPP!!!!

its always about how everyone else was being sooooo stupid... or sooo soft and he had to get things done etc etc exactly this but he's right because when he's not there there's always someone ringing him to ask how something should be done

Not my DH but my DM drove me absolutely insane when she worked for a very well known supermarket chain.

No Mother, I do not care why Janet off the Fish whose married to Ted off produce got demoted.

Though the story of internal workplace theft was amazing though

ALL. THE. TIME.

We used to work together but I then moved to a different company. I think he thinks he's keeping me in the loop updating me on all the new stuff bless him! But the reality is I left that industry for a reason, it was boring!

He is at a higher level than me and his job is admittedly more demanding and tiring, so I do like to make sure it's all okay and he isn't getting too stressed, but after a while I confided in him and told him it would be nice for him to ask how my work was once in a while. We have a much better dynamic now and we often have really nice chats about jobs and how we could both improve our working life

My mate tells me his DW drives him mad about her constant work, and feels that in the workplace she's constantly having to look over her shoulder as this blonde guy in her office is always after her job and tries to throw her under the bus. She said she wanted to remain but feels constant pressure to leave. She says she's been called deranged and she thinks it's the final straw. My mate took her on a make or break trip away to the Midlands but I don't think it's going to work out well

I have no idea what to tell my mate but his constant talk of her job is even driving me crazy and I try to avoid him now. I think most jobs are stressful but I told my mate it's just office politics and hopefully things will settle down :)

Depends what he does. My DH and i are both in the Emergency Services albeit different ones, but often discuss work especially if we have been to a tough job.

Feel you! My DP and I talk throughout the day, so I already hear it all then, and then at home he will talk more and more! Really intense detail. I am happy to hear about stuff but honestly I have a busy job too and I don't feel the need to talk about what i'm doing hour-by-hour of the day...

I had this in reverse. OH would keep asking about my day, files I had worked on, it was like being at work 24/7. I snapped one day and just said that if he didn't change the subject once in a while I was going to leave him as I couldn't stand never ever having a moment to not think about work.

He said that he was showing an interest, is all.

It did stop him though. I meant it, too. I was never able to switch off.