Dating as a single parent - when to mention the kids

[Wellyboots86]

So I’ve posted on here a while back about the collapse of my marriage due to xw cheating and lying about it for months.

Finally got myself to the point where I feel sane enough to start looking for new partner and put myself out on old but here’s my dilemma - as a guy in my thirties I’ve already had a (mostly) decent life and with that comes my kids.

I don’t want to string anyone along and make them think I’m childless or pretend they don’t exist for a bit to “let my personality shine through” but when is the right time to say about it?

I’ve seen a lot of women say about their kids in their profile or show pics of them with the kids, completely get why as there’s a lot of scummy guys just after sex but there must be an equal number with kids that aren’t mentioning it.

Am I doing the wrong thing saying about being a dad in my profile (no pics as don’t want pics of my kids on there from a safeguarding viewpoint) or is it best to be honest upfront like I am being?

Would it put you off more knowing I had kids straight away (so you might not even give me a chance) or is it worse to find out on a date (which looks like I’ve hidden it)?

If you're a good, involved father then you'd find it hard to NOT mention them anyway. So I'd just be natural with it. Flow them into the conversation when you can. You love them. The right woman will love that you love them and take all of it on board as a part of who you are and what your priorities are. I'm a single mum myself and always put that out there ASAP.

Little update. Put myself on bumble as like that it gives the option about saying you have kids. Plus the woman saying hi first angle appeals as finding on other apps I get matched but then no-one talks back

Early days yet but I’m sure miss right is out there!

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