What is a secret?

[kitkatsky]

If someone connected to your DH told you something in confidence and asked you not to mention it (not because it affected your DH but a wider dynamic, but wouldn't personally impact you or your DH) was would you keep the confidence or not be able to keep secrets from your DH. It wouldn't impact him to know, but I don't want him to find out I was complicit in not telling him

I would tell DH for sure.

Depends what it was. If it's none of his business then I wouldn't tell him. Saying complicit makes it sound like it's a "bad" secret? Why do you want to tell DH? Really depends....

If it was, e.g. a female friend who told me about her gyne problems and didn't want a bloke to know then yes, I would keep a secret; not if it had any impact/bearing on him though.

Yes depends what it is. Spill the beans....

On a need to know basis, we need to know more.

Would DH find out the secret at some point?
My reply totally depends on the nature of the secret as to whether I would tell him or not.

you really should have stopped the person telling you with the words.. I tell my DH everything... and let them decide whether to continue telling you or not

Totally depends on if/when/how it would affect him if/when/how he found out
My need more info...

Why did the person, given his/her connection to your DH, tell you, and then ask you not to tell him?

Are you close to that person?
My friends tell me lots in confidence and I never tell my dh so I could easily keep it a secret from him.

If someone asks you to keep a secret. Keep it.

A secret is exactly what is.... A secret !

What if the secret was reversed ? Would you want people telling their husbands your secret?

If it doesn't impact him or you then no. Why would you?

If someone told me something in the strictest of confidence, my lips would be sealed even from DH.

It wouldn't feel right passing on their information. And if it got out, I would hate for them to feel I had broken their trust in me.

If someone told you something in confidence and you accepted the knowledge on that basis and the secret doesn’t turn out to be criminal etc, then you shouldn’t tell anyone else.

If this secret isn’t going to impact on your husband then why do you want to tell him? If you’re not capable of keeping a secret then you should let the person who told you know, that way they can steer clear in the future.

Try and stop them before they told me and say I wouldn't like to keep secrets from my husband. I'd rather not know. Why risk losing your husbands trust in you over some gossip.