Wedding Advice?

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So I get married next Friday. I've enjoyed organising the wedding and have had no dramas or bridezilla moments. Ive been kept busy the last few months with work, and wedding things, holidays, social events so the wedding countdown has pretty much flown in!!

Now that its next week, every time I think about walking into the room and down the aisle infront of everyone I feel physically sick. Not that i dont want to do it or get married. Just physically sick with nerves. Ive been so preoccupied with organising it and other things ive not really thought much about the actual day itself!

The nerves are that bad i have abso no excitement left for the day and am just pretty much fucking terrified LOL Ive said to my OH and MOH how nervous I am and they have said its normal. Like i've joked about doing a Julia Roberts and bringing my trainers on the morning! ( i actually have no doubts that i want to get married - im just shitting myself and no amount of self pep talks have eased the nerves haha)

So Brides please hit me with your best advice to get me down the aisle in one peice LOL obv there will be in the morning so this will help!

Not a bride myself but know that my wife felt the same way until we looked at each other and all nerves fell away. In fact I was the slightly sniffy one!

Just remember why you're doing it, don't worry, you will have a fabulous day!

I was completely calm and organised until two nights before the wedding, when I spontaneously tried on my wedding ring to discover it didn't fit (I have a medical condition and my hands swell, ice reduces it, I know this, but at the time it seemed like an insurmountable problem). My DW-to-be bundled me sobbing into the car, drove me to my parents house and sort of handed me over. Mam gave me a (loving) talking to and I was fine 30 minutes later, with a back up cheap ring I borrowed off my sister just in case (didn't need it in the end).

Best advice: something will probably go wrong. As long as you end the day married to the person you're supposed to be getting married to, everything else is just a bonus. And the ceremony bit is early on so once that's out the way, try to relax. Also, earmark a bridesmaid or friend to bring you food and drinks, we had canapes during the photos and I didn't get to try any of them as they were all gone by the time we got back.

I nearly fell over walking up the isle BUT that day was the best day of my life. Hold someone’s hand just in case lol x good luck ull love it x

Make sure that by 6pm/7pm the night before your wedding everything is done so you can relax - plan something a bit chilled out that will distract you but not stress you out.

Bach's rescue remedy spray. Can get it from holland and Barrett

I made my husband to be walk down the aisle with me at the last minute.

I'm usually the nervous one and was leading up but perfectly calm on the day. It was DH who is usually Mr Laid Back that was actually teary.

@labyrinth whats the remedy spray?

Thanks for all your advice lol im just so terrified i freak out and then need coaxed down the aisle lol

ive honestly been so calm about everything up till now and now feel like am just in full scale panic mode about it LOL

Like will i fall? will i faint? will i actually be sick LOOOOOOOOL

pass the wine! lol

This is so so normal.
Don't worry.
On the day the adrenaline and excitement will kick in.
You won't even remember most of it.
It will all just pass in blur.
Honestly, you'll be fine.
Have a fabulous day.
Get loads of pics.
And remember.... it's YOUR day.
You do what you want and don't try to keep others happy.
They are there to celebrate with you and not stress you out in any way.
You'll have a ball.
Make sure you have morning champers and all will be well.

I used it for my driving test as I was a nervous wreck!
It's all natural ingredients and actually works www.hollandandbarrett.com/shop/product/nelsons-rescue-remedy-spray-60082650?skuid=080142

Try to think of it in terms of excitement, rather than stress or anxiety about the day. Does the person you are going to marry feel the same? Is it about the day and expectations or the marriage part that is making you feel like this? Have you got a chance to see your spouse-to-be just before so you can have the giggly excitement bit together and a reassuring hug? After all, they are your chosen person for all the crazy shit that life throws at you, so hopefully they'll be with you through this bit? As others have said, it's likely you/both of you may be a bit emotional. It is a big step in your relationship. Hopefully you have no qualms about the marriage itself so the rest is just excitement and perhaps nerves if there is any 'performance' part of the day planned (you up front with a large audience or a speech, etc) in the same way there would be if you were doing a play, in a choir or a band or giving a presentation at work.

It may also be that you've been too busy so far to think about it all and it's all hit you in a big 'whoop' and feels overwhelming. Go back to the basics. You are having a day to celebrate the two of you choosing to spend your lives together. Spend the intervening time enjoying each other's company and being excited together.

And, have fun!

Alcohol. Enough to take the edge off the nerves but not enough to be drunk!