I want to leave but how when I have nowhere

[badgerone]

I'm a sahm to 2 kids under 2, husband and I married, but it's just not working.
I feel like his mother, having to pester him to help me round the house at all or do things with the kids. Makes me feel guilty in that he is the one that works so shouldn't have to basically do anything at home. I do all the house admin and remind him to contact his family etc and all I get back from him is him moaning at me like a stroppy teenager.
When I gave birth to dc2 I had to carry on with housework as he wouldn't do it, and wouldn't do any washing. He didn't even walk the dog once and he was off for 2 weeks. He just treated it like a holiday for him, never mind the fact it's actually to help me out giving birth to his child and looking after dc1!
I'm totally fed up and think that actually I would be better off alone.
However - I don't work so have no money (we only just get by so no savings anyway), we share a car but it is technically his so id have no car, can't go back to parents with 2 babies as I am the oldest and other dc of my parents still live there.
We have argued before and I've told him to leave and go to his mums but he flat out refuses.

What on Earth do I do? I want to leave but when you have no where to go what do you do?

Look at entitled to website and see what benefits you would get. Also, he'll gave to provide you with child maintenance and have to look after your children on his days and do all his own housework. Be informed and present him with the facts and an ultimatum.

Your local council may well be able to help you in terms of a deposit and first months rent. Have a think about your friends or family - do they own or know someone who has a house/flat to rent?

Make sure that the child benefit and tax credits are all in your name. Do the online benefits calculation. Stop doing his washing. Don't panic about the car unless you really need it for school runs - perhaps friends could help with this?

Get all your paperwork in order and packed away. Your local Women's Aid/refuge can also help with advice as it isn't just for domestic violence cases.

Good luck.

Do you rent? Are you joint tenants? If you're not sure of your options, you can talk to Shelter, who would be able to advise you - they do an online chat and call-back service.

You can officially separate while under the same roof, which would be tough, but doable as a temporary measure.

Talk it through. I had this with my husband please look at what you can do. He may not realise how bad it is for you. Have you looked at maybe getting a few hours work weekly when he's off? Neither of you have done this before so you are both learning. He maybe behaving in a way he's seen his parents behave. Tell him what you need.

Do you rent or own? Whose name is the car in?

Talk to him and tell him directly what you need. Also think what's best for your family and if you just needed a break. Remember, that having a family needs hardwork and it is being worked continuously.

It also seems that you are lacking quality time with your husband so it may also help to do at least a weekend getaway and talk things through.