Could it be love?? Help

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Hi all.

This is my first post so please br kind haha.

Ive been seeing a bloke for 6 weeks now, we see eachother every other evening and all day sunday.
He started as a friend of a friend and there was no initial attraction at all. Totally not my usual type and 14 years older than me.

We ended up texting and being friends which is when he asked for some help at his work. As i spent tine with him i felt this magnetic pull towards him! I cant describe it but i just wanted to be around him and make any excuse to laugh with him. I ached when i went home in the evening and looked forward to seeing him the next day.

I drunk text him one eve and he ended up coming round and well... yano lmao. The sexuall chemistry is off the chart!! We connect like we are one person.

6 weeks on and my tummy still gets the butterflies when i think of him and sex is fantastic. Personality wise he is a male version of me, we bounce off eachother and it all feels so right and natural.

My doubt in my head is that i look at him and i still think that im not physically attracted to him. I dont want to hurt him at all or lead him on, what if these feelings go away because its lust or something?

Ive had past relationships with good looking blokes which ended up fizzling out due to no connection.

Ive not been in this position before and i would love to see where it goes but im so scares of hurting him.

What do you think it sounds like? Lust or could it be leading somewhere love wise?

Forgot to say that im 35 and hes 49. Age doesnt bother me in the slightest.

35 and you can't actually tell whether it's love or lust? I find that surprising if you've had past relationships and know they've fizzled out due to no connection. Have you really never been in love then?

I'd say there's no guarantee in any relationship that at some point one of you wouldn't get hurt.. you've met someone who makes you happy.. don't overthink things & go with the flow, live for the now & enjoy..

I have to disagree with Shatners and say that it's not remotely surprising that you can't categorise this as lust or love. Very hard to tell the difference at this stage, and in fact the line between the two is very blurred anyway - both things are hard to define.
I just think you have to go with it and see how things develop. Statistically, it's often at the 18 month stage that it starts to go in one of two directions (commit or fizzle).
To me, the fact that you have these feelings despite not finding him "good looking" is potentially a positive rather than a negative.

Thanks for the replies.
I thought i was inlove with them but it fizzled out after a year.

The feelings with this bloke are different to the others which has made me question myself- were they just physical and its love this time round.

I do tend to overthink things. Maybe your right and i should just let go and enjoy the ride wherever it takes me

I thought i was inlove with them but it fizzled out after a year.

Then you were in love with them - because "in love" isn't love, and it doesn't last. Love builds up slowly, over time.

That makes sence.
Well this eve i found out that i knew someone he was seeing casually a few weeks before me and my stomach turned somersaults. I got so jealous at the thought of him being with someone else that it shown me how much i actually love him.

Im not a jealous person of exes, life is life but i just grabbed him tight and said "mine"

Quite excited to see where this goes. Its different to my exes.

My mum once said to me the difference between being in love, and loving someone is that when you're in love, you really want them, and when you truly love them, you really want them to be happy.

But I have to say it certainly sounds like you two are a match made in heaven and you certainly must be physically attracted to him to want to go to bed with him so much!

Just enjoy this! Don't think, just feel.

You already know.

Thanks for the replies people.
Your right, ive just got to go with it and enjoy.