Why does my ex bf pass my house if he says he wants nothing to do with me

[Thisiscreepy]

My ex has friends that live down the road from me on a dead end road. I have asked his friends if he had purpose on driving down the road five times between 5-10pm. I was told ummm no. Twice yes but not complete trips. What should I do. Other neighbors say he passes and in other vehicle not just his own, some say he always passes every since they knew him. I just moved in to this place after we broke up. I would not have but It was Really not a choice.

Maybe he's seeing whether or not you have a new partner over.

Sounds a bit stalkerish! Especially given you live on a dead end...Whats the back story? How long were you together? Why did you break up?

Ignore, ignore, ignore. Unless he starts actively harassing you, then report to the police if you feel threatened.

Does everyone sit at their windows in this neighbour hood? I NEVER notice who does & doesn’t drive by my house. Do you have any need to ask his friends what route he takes to their house? Unless he is actively harassing you ignore him, stop watching for him to drive by, stop asking his friends questions.

If you feel threatened tell the police but he’s literally just driving down your street it’s odd you notice

All your neighbours know you ex well enough to spot him in passing cars?

I agree with Missyfox. His friends might have also informed him that you asked them about him which could be encouraging him to do this if he's doing it for attention. I'd suggest don't give him any attention and eventually you'll either stop caring if he's driving by or he'll stop driving by all together (apart from when he's visiting his friends of course which he isn't going to stop doing just because they happen to live on the same road as you). I might be wrong but maybe you haven't moved on which is why you look out for him and care if he goes by your house?
Also agree with others though that IF you don't want to see him and he continues to excessively drive by your house, you should contact the police as he could be stalking you, a simple warning from the police might make him stop doing it.

We started seeing each other for four months then started dating for 5 months. He wanted to marry me or us buy place together. I was not ready and thought we had not dated long enough. Well short story my ex before him had to come back in my life for some legal issues and he got mad and jealous. He left saying I think you will leave me for him and I am getting jealous and don’t know how to handle It so I have to stop. He had started checking my phone and could not stand being away for any length of time.

There is only one way in and one way out. The thing is his vehicle is loud. I don’t have to be outside to tell he passing. I can hear his vehicle in my house and can tell sometimes It just A pass through. And yes he has done It more then once if I have other vehicles at my house. He will never be stupid enough to actually mess with me because he would loss his job.

Yes, where I live everyone knows everyone and their routines. We also know when people are gone or home and when they have company.

Well there you have it. He was checking your phone, insecure, still not over you but wanting to check he was right . He suspects you are seeing someone else.

I know they did. Cause the friend said they would talk to him about not doing that. See the area we live it is easy to get kicked out. They don’t want to loss their home. It has Slowed down but has not stopped. I dont want to make him stop seeing his friends cause I can actually have It where he not allowed on our road due to It being A private road. The place I live has already asked me if that what I want but I don’t want to take his friends away. I just want the misc passing to stop. I already stopped going out side as much but I can not stop my children. They like playing with their friends

The one time we did talk cause he would not come and get his belongings and It had Been two months, he made comment about me and my ex and he had been seen someone right after we broke up and he was making a point to say he was dating her for reason and then stated about me and my ex before him. I just laughed and said I don’t care why u were with her. And as far as my ex we are just friends and that all we will be. I do find It funny Cause he did get to see my ex before him stay over twice in one week. The driving by stopped for a week after that, but started right back.
See this guy that passing ghosted me and would not get his belongings. I had to corner him at his work to find out about some legal things and if he was going to get his things.

An ex of mine was convinced I would go out with one of his friends after we split. I never did, although we remained friends and they didn't (abuse towards me by XP upset his friend). For two years XP would check up on me, come into my work place, ring me, always late at night to catch me out. I even changed job and moved house. In the end I just said I was seeing this friend, he said I knew it, and never bothered me again! I think your X is just desperate to be proved right so he isn't the one who's a knob. I'm sorry it's causing you problems. If he can't stop he may just have to lose the right to the street just to give you some peace. It's his problem, he should deal with the consequences, not you.

Yeah, I am really trying to be nice. If he loses the right to come down the road he also will get in a lot of trouble.

I just don’t understand. They watch what I am doing, passes my house, looks to see if I am at wk cause we wk like mile from each other. Started going to the gym I go to, so I confronted him. Asked him did you think u made a mistake or what? He said basically I hurt him to bad and was damaged. I said fine stop riding by and quit checking my profiles. Yeah that did not wk. It was Two months after I stopped letting him see me around and told his friends and he was stopped riding as much he started using the front street to our road cause you can see our houses from there and then started going to the gym.
It all Public and he does not talk to me or stop me. I started going to eat at one location at least once a week eithe Thur or Friday. Well yeah I heard he was there from some mutual friends. I said I am glad I changed It up This week and then the next I have not went. We been broke up for 7 months. He also cornered a friend of mine questioning our status numerous times. My friend is a cop and was like look, if It does Not stop we need to have actual charges brought up. He was not letting you go when we meet, It happened for hours. The other thing is We are 12 years apart in age.