Hi,
So I dated my ex for 14 years and things really didn’t end well. Before I dated him I had some pretty strict criteria in terms of his social life. Mind you, I was only 16 at the time.
No smoking/drugs/alcohol
No past relationships (I wanted to be his first)
Not too social
And my ex (he was 16 then too) fitted all this and things were great. And I still haven’t touched alcohol or smoked and never will. But family got involved and things turned bitter and we broke up about a year ago.
I’ve now met a man that I wouldn’t have blinked twice at in the past but somehow... I’m actually falling for him. But he does drink and smokes. He’s highly educated (doing his PhD but my ex had only finished high school) and social and basically the opposite of my ex. I’m slightly annoyed that he drinks and smokes but it doesn’t annoy or bother me as much as it did say a year or two ago.
How can I suddenly change so much for someone?!