It’s very early days yet.
I had endocarditis (a virus attacked my heart) two years ago and it caused serious damage to my heart to the extent I almost died and spent several days in an induced coma.
The medication you have to take is horrendous. Beta blockers knock you for six because they’re designed to keep your heart rate down, similarly ace inhibitors which keep your blood pressure lower
I went from someone who was supremely fit and healthy to someone who on a bad day doesn’t leave the house, has 0 libido because of my medication and who has gone from being confident to not overnight, and I’m two years on.
I have in fact never minimised this to my own partner as I know that I can be difficult to live with at times.
However, if this is your life partner then you are together in sickness and in health, and sometimes the sickness bit is going to be harder than you could ever have anticipated.
Your dp has likely not yet come to terms with the fact that he is a different person now. There will be plans in place and being put in place for how the future is going to look in terms of his ultimate recovery,and that alone is scary because there is no knowing when those things are going to happen or even if. And in the meantime he is potentially afraid of having another heart attack, as I’m guessing that the one he had wasn’t expected and there weren’t any signs beforehand? In which case he may well be feeling as if he is living on tenter hooks.
In terms of taking his DD to thorp Park, he likely wants to do it because he just wants to feel normal again, and it is likely going to take time, and sometimes experiences, to realise that he can’t do the things he once could.
But equally he may find that he can get through going to Thorp park, and in that case it will have been an achievement for him iyswim.
Apart from his drugs, how is he doing? If they’ve said his heart performance is dropping do they have a plan in place to do something about that? Bear in mind that if he is likely to need surgery then he also needs to build his stamina over time, and that can take time but also emotional resilience.
And his DD is thirteen, hormonal and almost lost her dad. It might be worth having a chat with her along the lines of that while her dad wants to do these things with her, at the moment things are tentative because of his recovery, but that doesn’t rule out the future iyswim. My own DC was thirteen when I fell ill and it was an emotional time for all of us.
Equally if your DP really wants to go to Thorp Park be careful not to make him feel as if he is incapable. I’ve had experiences where I really want to do something and a member of my family will say “well obviously you can’t go,” and I recently ended up in floods of tears over it because everyone else has decided what I’m no longer capable of and it feels like they’ve taken my identity and become decision-makers on my behalf, even though that’s not how they intended it and they do genuinely only have my best interests at heart.
The ultimate goal here is communication, communication, communication, and if he is finding it hard to come to terms with things for himself, then communicating those things to you is going to feel doubly so.
Sorry for the essay. :-)