How to end it?

[Summerdreamss]

Plodded on for years, no physical or emotional connection for years too. I really can't see how it can change.
Been married 17 years, how do you end it? Finding it so hard to find the words and then deal with the aftermath, telling families etc

I’m just at the beginning of this as I told H last week I want to separate - sounds similar to your situation. I’m afraid there is no easy way and I had to be quite brutal in telling him how I feel. It’s horrible as you will hurt him but if you’re serious about ending it then sadly there’s not really any other way. Good luck!

Have you had any conversations during that time about how you/both of you are not happy? Do you worry most that he will be sad or angry? It's between the two of you ,don't waste your life if you know its over. Just say -we need to talk.If you have DC then obviously harder but no good living a lie.

If you havent yet raised any feelings that youre not happy i think after 17 years you at least owe him that before sealing the deal?

Yes he knows I unhappy yet he still ignores it, probably denial and upset at the thought of dealing with it all. He's a lovely man,kind and great dad yet we're just living as friends and resentment is building up.
I worry I'll regret it but then again do I want to live 40 years with no intimacy or connection

Summerdreams I totally understand. I need to make a decision based on my future happiness knowing the immediate future may be awful. It’s so hard. Sending you hugs and

Thanks moffa.
Yes it's so hard and I feel selfish for thinking of my own happiness