OH has a somewhat secret social media account AIBU

[Samantha2018]

I was sending myself some pictures from OH phone and saw the option for Instagram didn't know he had one, had a quick look friends and random women. The app was in his games folder not social which made me thought he was hiding it. ie it's not with the others. Am I being paranoid over nothing? We're in our 30s if this makes any difference. I asked him why he didn't want me to see it and I thought he was hiding something. Tried to brush it off asked who the girls were and why they were on there. He threw the phone on the sofa where i was sat said he "can't have anything can I" he's cheated in the past so I do get suspicious over things that could be nothing. What do you guys think?

I'm sorry he's cheating. And gaslighting

I think once a cheater always a cheater. Do you use Insta? If so add him and see if he accepts.

Or leave him.

Why shouldn't he use Instagram? It doesn't mean he's cheating. You sound quite controlling.

I don't use Instagram no I'd spend forever looking at pictures of strangers!

I did think I sounded like a crazy person questioning it which is why I came on here to see if it was just me! He can have one if he wants I just felt it was abit sneaky he's very protective of his phone!

I would either think he was up to no good because he was trying to hide it or just genuinely using it as it should be used but didn't dare tell you in case you kicked off.

Maybe! That would make me feel better anyway, makes me sound a bit of a lunatic thought!

Though*

Has he cheated on you in the past ? Or someone else? Why wouldn’t he just be open about having Instagram...the fact he threw something at you / near you doesn’t sound good either !

Oh dear oh dear...

No no no no... don't let him make you feel that way!

If there was nothing to hide, he would have kept it out in the open. Why on earth would he hide it in a wrong folder?

Sorry I would be getting big alarm bells from this.

My ex did this... or something similar anyway. Suddenly put a password on his laptop. Like... why?! After alot of time trying to spy his password, I checked through his laptop when he was at uni lectures.
Fucker had been cheating on me. Trying to hook up with women. Fucker. I took him back as well... but it didn't last. Never trusted him again.

Overreacting like that and putting the guilt on you... sounds suspicious too.

Anyway... play it cool for now. Snoop only when you know he won't be around. Did you make a note of his username? Build your offense OP... bide your time.

What does your gut tell you?

Fuckitpassmethewine He has cheated on me before yes
(Sorry I don't know how to reply to you individually)

Plinkplink I probably think he's using it to talk to women I don't know if it would go further than this but I did think I had the right to be upset I could find the page if I wanted to but I will just make myself annoyed now thinking about private messages between him and these women

You have the right to not tolerate him having private messages with other women behind your back

If I found out my H was doing this, his arse would be out the door whether he had met up with them or not

You can message other people within the Instagram app - check that if you're suspicious.

Former cheaters really need to be fully transparent.

had a quick look friends and random women.

His friends are random women?
Have you asked who they are and how he knows them?

The problem with staying with a person who cheated is the lack of trust. You forever question things and sometimes it's just not worth it.

His behaviour by hiding the Insta app is dodgy.

Don't put up with this type of shit.