Hi all. I'd like opinions on my family breakdown please. Not sure if I'm posting in the right place. I really just want general opinions and nobody calling me names as this is extremely stressful as it Is, and I just need to see if anyone else would do what I'm doing or not. Maybe if I'm in the wrong I could sit down and think more in depth but as of now I don't see what I've done.
In short, my cousin attempted to stab my partner, who is the father of my two children. Not fully going into details as the crime is currently being dealt with by CPS. My cousin came out of our grandparents house wielding two weapons and lunged at my partner. My grandfather and my cousins mother pulled him back into the house. The police were called and he was arrested. Now his mother and our grandfather denied to the police anything happened. Our grandmother I personally believe saw nothing as she probably was in a panic the whole time but it's a certain the mother and grandfather saw, and the grandfather also refused to tell the police that my cousin was upstairs in their house so she just went up and found him herself.
I understand a mother will always protect her child (although In this situation I wouldn't protect mine, I can't condone criminal behaviour especially involving knives), but for our joint grandparent to deny all knowledge really shocked me. They probably just don't want the drama and hassle but by doing what he did has caused more drama.
I told my nan that if grandad didn't do the right thing, I wouldn't allow my children in their home again near grandad. The cousin visits their house almost daily and if I was sat there with my kids and the person who tries to stab their dad walks in willy nilly like nothings happened, I don't know what I would do to him. Me and my mother offered for my nan to see the children alone, either at mums house, at the local cafe where my nan visits weekly or at her home when grandad was out but she refused. Not once did I ask for grandad to be kicked out of the house or for her to fall out with him, just for her sake and my kids I wanted them to see her as she is quite ill. I can't forgive my grandad for this or my cousin obviously.
I'm being told I'm selfish and blackmailing when really I think what I've done is fine. Would other people let their kids go to a house where someone could come in who tried to stab their father, or be around someone who Indirectly supported and helped this criminal?
I've not spoken to nan directly as I can't get her alone, and I know if I ask them about it they will refuse to speak about it (as mentioned nan is not wrll and i dont want to stress her more) I know id get wound up and upset if grandad denies knowledge as I know it's a lie. It's tore our family apart.
Thank you