We're in a mess. I've had feelings for someone else but didn't act on them. Felt terribly guilty. Now found out that DH then went off and had an affair. He hasn't apologised because says he wouldn't have done it if I hadn't had these feelings for another man. I feel that he's also not acknowledging what I think has gone wrong in the first place, but just wants us to 'get on with it'. He's pushed for us to buy a house - says that we need it regardless of whether we can sort things out between us.
Now I feel terribly confused and I'm finding it hard to sort my head while he's in the same house. I think it's starting to sink in that he's been sleeping with someone else while I've been feeling lonely and isolated looking after the kids. He doesn't seem to think of it as being that significant.
So, I've asked him to go and live somewhere else for a while just so we can both realise what's actually happened. However, I think he is going to say that he will only make a go of it if we can stay living together.
What should I do? I don't want to give up on it but I desperately need some space and time on my own. I'm scared he's just going to leave.