Just had 3rd child and need good Christmas present

[Nazeen]

Hi, just had 3rd child. Got married late and knocked them all out in less than 3.5 years, been really hard to be honest and I think that I have put my husband under a lot of pressure to have them and to move near my family etc. I have got what I wanted but its a real strain, sometimes think days without kids were better? Anyone else feel like this? Feel bad saying it....House always a tip and I often have a go at him when he comes in from work. He gets fed up of the kids and to be honest I am a little scared he may just leave sometime as he works away a few nights here and there which he prefers so he gets a good nights sleep, he often says I prefer to go to work than look after kids....

I just want to say thanks to my husband as I know he works hard and looking for the ultimate Christmas present for him, any suggestions?

I can see how kids can break relationships, its soooooooo draining!

What sort of budget?

The best present I have given my husband was his dog but I guess that is not an option for most people

What about smart monogrammed bag seeing as he works away from home from time to time?

I don't think "stuff" is the answer here, unless you know of something specific and sentimental that he would love and be very touched by. But the fact you're asking the question suggests you don't have anything like that in mind. So I think the best gift in your situation would be quality time together without the kids. I know that might not be possible right now if you have a new baby, and 2 others under the age of 4, but is their any one who could babysit while you have a night together at a hotel? Or even just an evening away together at a restaurant/ activity you both enjoy? Or you could (if practical) look at a class you could take together so you're spending one evening a week quality time together? I imagine those aren't really viable suggestion with 3 very young kids but if your relationship is stressed from family life I'd brainstorm realistic ideas for regular quality time together. That's the kind of gift I'd like anyway!

Are you able to arrange babysitting for the kids? If so, a weekend away at something he will love (for my DH, F1 race or track day for example). With a romantic evening afterwards and lots of telling him how much I love and appreciate him.

On a budget? A jam jar filled with post notes of reasons why I love him or things that he does that I appreciate.

Thanks for the help, I think an experience day would be a good idea, blokes love that sort of thing. Its hard work, do need time out away from the kids and need to ensure I keep him interested in me....lol
Also like the jam jar idea, very thoughtful indeed, will try and do both and let you know what present I choose for him when had a look around.

Thanks all,

Naz

It’s really hard on both of you really get now. Just knowing your appreciated will be all he needs, I’ve also just had my 3rd although they are more spread out it’s still non stop, she’s undos like your a good team though. I have to second that my DH adores his dog, best money he’s ever spent he often says :)

Thanks, defo not having a 4th, its sooo hard and bad as I kind of want these days over and done with as its exhausting and put soooooooooo much weight on!

Going to spend sometime to try and get fit and schedule a nice walk tomorrow with hubby and friends will look after kids, will take baby with use, in case need a feed.

Also got him I think an excellent present for Christmas as he loves planes: www.flyfsm.co.uk. Its an airline simulator so you can fly as the pilot, he cant be annoyed at me after this!

Any other relationship ideas please keep me posted, love hearing am not alone in this family life troubles as often everyone else looks perfect.

Thanks, Naz :))))