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Does anyone have experience in the court system for DV?

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TheCunkOfPhilomena · 29/09/2018 13:27

On Wednesday night my now ex partner (a long time alcoholic but had been sober for a while) got very drunk whilst we were having a night away and he refused to let me leave the place where we were staying (by pushing me and restraining me - he didn't hit me) and he smashed up my phone so I couldn't call the police for help.

I managed to escape into the back garden and call to the neighbours for help and they helped me climb over the wall to their garden and called the police.

He was arrested and charged with assault and criminal damage and bailed to appear in court next month as I think he is pleading not guilty (although the police told me he was very sorry and admitted to not letting me leave?).

The police said there is substantial evidence from statements from the neighbours and the remains of my phone but I might have to go to court to give evidence.

Has anyone been through similar before? I am so scared of him getting drunk and coming to find me (I know this is against his bail conditions and have been told to call 999 if he tries anything) and I'm also really scared of having to go to court and speak.

Any advice would be really appreciated.

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TheCunkOfPhilomena · 25/10/2018 22:15

Thanks gingerchick

Final update as the hearing was today.

I really hope that if anyone else in a similar situation is reading this then this gives you some hope.

He pleaded guilty, I didn't have to go, he was given a 2 year community order and ordered to pay costs to the court and to victim support services as well as compensation and I have a restraining order against him.

I'm so very sorry so many women go through this, it's been a bloody horrible month Flowers

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