I think I’ve just ended an abusive relationship and I can’t see the wood for the trees, I really need some help. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 6 months.
Quite early on I found out (randomly by chance through an acquaintance) that he had been messaging another girl behind my back. Nothing more happened apparently apart from messaging but i confronted my boyfriend about it and he swore blind it wasn’t true. He cried, begged and pleaded for me to stay with him so I did.
Since then I saw a message that flashed up on his phone from a girl saying: “I can’t believe you’ve just blocked me. What’s going on?” He’s also been adding local girls on Instagram and ‘liking’ photos of them in bikinis and whatnot. I know he cheated on his long term ex too.
Through all of this I have become increasingly paranoid. He just turns it all around on me and says I’m hard work, nasty, high maintenance and that he feels like I bully him. He says I’m delusional and everything I accuse him of is made up and lies. Meanwhile my gut has been telling me I need to get out. I feel so anxious all the time.
Today I said to him I don’t think this is working anymore and he said fine, don’t expect me to sit around pining for you. I’ve tried so hard to keep you but you’re just paranoid and crazy. He said he loves me but he won’t beg for me to stay with him anymore. I’ve done the right thing by letting him go haven’t I? I just feel as though he’s turned all this round on me and he’s done a bit of a number on me as I feel as though everything is my fault. We are both 31 for context.