What to do with this man?

[notenoughbottletonight]

So I've posted about this same man before 🙄 We've been friends, often with benefits, for nearly a year. He never wanted anything more until a month ago when he turned round and said that actually he liked me more than friends now so we've been 'seeing' each other since. He's twelve years older, no kids. It's been going really well, he went on a boys holiday and rang and text me constantly throughout. I trust that he did nothing. Since he came back we've booked a holiday together, he said about wanting some 'us time'. This week though he's been a bit off with me, we've had sex once which is not normal for us. He says he doesn't know why just isn't in the mood. When he went away he said that he wasn't happy with me going out to our local city clubbing so I didn't. He was working last night and he went there after work. I've heard nothing from him since yesterday afternoon despite me having messaged him on fb and him ignoring it. I don't know what the hell hes playing at but I'm at the point I'm so
pissed off I feel like having serious words with him. He has previously been a massive commitment phobe and I'm fed up of feeling anxious and on edge about our 'relationship'. The fact that he hasn't bothered to contact me is a big deal. Do I just ring him or break away from this?

Don't debase yourself by chasing him for more. Keep your self-respect.

So he told me when we were out in a group last night that he didn't want any relationship. He has seriously fucked me over the last year. Now we have another holiday booked together too. He's actually broken me this time

Sorry, op. But he's bad news. Make this time the end of it and don't get suckered back in.

You should have dumped him first. He showed the signs that he wasn't all in.

His hypocrisy is mad. Don't act bothered. Just block him.

Truth is no matter how many people in here tell you he’s bad news, no matter how your gut feeling tells you to run. You will stay and will desperately cling on for his attention and to the hope that things can be more with him etc. You will hang around until it all crashes and burns and he totally breaks your heart. Women who think they can be that girl who can change a man, just really make a fool of themselves, because you can’t. We think we are special, but we are not. I’m sorry this is harsh, but do yourself and favour and just cut this man off your life. You think a person like this with you at the start can be better later on and treat you nicely consistently? Be brave and just run.

He holidayed for a week but didn’t want you going clubbing? And so you didn’t?! Mug! Dump his sorry ass.

Can you get your holiday money back?

I found him on dating websites too last night. He keeps texting asking 'how are you?' Like, what?! I e paid for the flights, we've booked the place we're staying at which doesn't get paid til the week before, it's free cancellation. The flights are in his name, no doubt he'll still think I'm coming and if not then he'll find some other stupid woman to take with him. I'm literally heartbroken, I held out for so long waiting for him and when he finally did a 360 on me he's messed it up yet again. Yes he has been a good supportive friend and we have had some good times together but getting my hopes up like this? Too much this time, I want to be done with it.

Some men are bastards...someone once told me. Cancel the hotel, and get this man out of your life darling. Stop clinging on to fallacy and false hopes. Don’t let him sweet talk you back. You’re better than this.

I wasted £500 on a trip which just 1 week before we go he broke up with me. Cheap price to escape a dickhead.

Was just thinking yesterday how much I wish I had a time machine, so I could go back and laugh in the faces of various twats who would go silent on me then get me to come running by dispensing crumbs.

This is your future self talking: ditch this moody, arrogant twat today. Or at the very least, massively hold back and let him do some heavy lifting.

Sorry, cross post. What a bastard. So sorry op.

You want to be done with it and you think he will still expect you to go on the holiday. No he wont. It is done, he has told you and shown you who he is. It is over, try not to waste your precious time over analysing every detail of what went on. You deserve better.