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I met this guy on Tinder. He doesn’t live in my town but is currently working here. He has been sending me a load of messages and ringing me a lot. But I hadn’t met him face to face until he came into my work yesterday. He was chatting with me and there was a lot of chemistry between us and it was one of those situations where you feel very drawn to the other person and like you want to kiss them there and then. I’m sure this was mutual. He was stumbling over his words a bit and looked a little nervous. Then he went away and came back with something he had bought me.

Now he seems to have backed off a bit and is not sounding as confident in his texts to me as he was. Ie he sounded sure of himself and quite openly flirty.

Anyone know what might be going on here? I’m wondering if having met me it has made it more real and that maybe he isn’t single.

He came to where you work?

Wut???

How does he know where you work?

He works near me - we both work in town

You told a strange man on the internet where you work? Before you had met him? Why?

Maybe he feels a bit intimidated now he's met you and is attracted to you?

The confident persona he projected in his messages was artificial or exaggerated - easy to be confident when you're anonymous, a bit like reinventing yourself when you go off to university. Now he's met you in person, it's harder for him to maintain it.

How the heck would we know ? Could be any number of explanations.

The biggest concern here is that you are asking strangers to add to the head space you are already using trying to second guess the behaviour of a random bloke.

He works near me - we both work in town

But how does he know where you work?

I think you need boundaries training, this is WELL OVER that boundary.

I don't have a problem him knowing where I work because I'm
A beauty therapist & I work in a central salon. He works for a local conservation business and is restoring a local church. I was going to meet him for a coffee but since I needed to mind the salon during my lunch break I couldn't. So he suggested just walking by to say hello. I have been speaking to him on the phone for about 3 weeks.

Anyway, my friend has told me off for letting him know where I work. I suppose I am too trusting.

Everyone, including your friend, is telling you you're insane for telling a complete stranger where you work. Please listen and start making better choices.

I’m autistic - so I don’t always see things the same way a conventional woman would.

What I mean is that I don’t deliberately make bad choices

I don't think you're insane for telling him where you work - you've hardly given him your address! I get that it was a bit risky but you're both working in the same town - busy place etc - is not like you're in a beauty salon down a darkened lane or alleyway!
Could he possibly be not coming across as confident as he's thinking you're not as into him? Keep the chat light, ask him if you can try for that coffee somewhere and see what he says.
EVERYTHING changes after chatting and then finally meeting and if he's not as into you now after meeting - that's life!
Good luck x

Well, I say good on you for meeting in a public place in daytime & for telling colleages. Better than say, no one knowing you arranged to meet in a rural pub car park at 22.00.

Not ideal, but it could have been worse.

He says he got the feeling I didn't like him 😐