Issues.

[thewinterqueen]

I don't touch alcohol. I don't have an issue with it, but it just doesn't agree with me. It makes me sick, and it exacerbates my depression and anxiety. My partner drinks a lot though, and sends me a lot of rubbish when she does. Mainly texts about how good she is for me, and how into me she is. It does stress me out, as we're already going through some issues. She gave me HPV and I discovered drugs in her bedroom at her place, which she vehemently denies are hers. Apparently she's looking after them for a friend.

Either way, I am struggling to be with her because she gets really drunk. It makes me really stressed and I've already told her that I have PTSD around drunk people due to abuse as a kid. I was drunken raped by my stepdad at a young age, and so any drunk people make me feel shaky, stressed and anxious. Can I ever have a relationship with someone who drinks, or should I run for the hills and find someone who doesn't drink?

I am sorry to hear about your past.

If you have PTSD around drunk people and your g/f drinks a lot then I am not sure this relationship is right for you. Do you have a need to be with her that is stronger than your health and mental state?

I have asked her to be more understanding, but she's done it again tonight. She gets really insecure when she's had a drink, and I can't handle that as well as my own insecurities. Alcohol is a huge trigger for me. I tried to end it this week, but she claimed that we're good for eachother.

i tried to end it this week, but she claimed that we're good for eachother

Yeah, abusers will do that.

They will also try the "because society is against us, it's your duty to remain with me and refute that"

Has she tried that one yet?

Run for the hills. You can't afford to be in a toxic relationship. Have you tried asking your dr if you can get a referral to a psychologist?

This relationship isn't good for you. Her stuff and your stuff aren't going to work. Sorry.

And she's looking after them for a friend didn't fool my mother when I had 15.

If people drinking trigger you, I don’t think this is the right person for you. Sorry

No one!! And I mean no one looks after drugs for a friend!! Lol

You have the right to end the relationship for whatever reason you wish. You are not compatible. Full stop. And of story. She is not capable of stopping you ending the relationship. Don't try. Do. Do not enter into discussion and reasons. Do not open a dialogue that gives her a chance to argue her case and dissuade you. State your intention, not your case, and walk away.

She does not have the right to tell you she is good for you. That is for you to decide and you've decided she is not. She does not have the right to unilaterally decide you are good together. Again that is half your decision and you have decided you are not. Your feelings are valid!

This is not the partner for you. She dismisses your feelings, ignore your PTSD and creates situations where she triggers it. This is not a caring partner for you. So end it. Cleanly and quickly. Then block.