Left an abusive relationship last year.Lost everything, sofa surfing for a few months (not recommended at 60) Everything in storage. Had to rehome horses and younger dog.
Fast forward, found place to live and met a lovely guy od, third date he tells me he "knows I'm the woman for him" and that "he'll be seeing me every day from now on"
I insisted we take things slowly but was continually love bombed by him.
Couldn't do enough for me, constant calls and texts, worrying about my safety etc etc.
Then he started staying over, everything was really good.Little by little he moved in, got on well with friends and family.Even talked marriage.
Then, a friend using the same site told me he was often online.
I questioned him as to why and all he could do was shrug his shoulders and say "I don't know"
I may be overreacting but I felt betrayed.I'd just come through a similar scenario, which he was well aware of.
Packed up his belongings and told him to go forth and multiply.
Be a strong independent female, who needs a man anyway?
He always kept in touch, even though I was vile to him, really said some very hurtful stuff.
Lovely messages and gifts followed.
We, tentatively, decided to try again.When he stays over it is only to sleep.Apparently it's not me, it's him, that old chestnut.He is a workaholic, always on the go.
And now, as before, he's back online again.
I know I should follow my gut feeling, run and not look back but I really have fallen for him.Without trust there can be no relationship, so that is that.Blocked, no contact.
But feel so damn low.Last few years have been stressful , widowed, lost my son, abusive relationship, health issues, really thought things were picking up for once.
Need a shoulder.