Not a bloody mind reader!

[tryingtotakeitonthechin]

So, here’s how conversations go in our house at least once a day...
DH “there’s only 3 pages in her book”
At this point I have to decipher that he’s talking about DD and try to work out what he’s on about...
Me “no, we read it earlier, it’s a very short book but definitely more than 3 pages”
DH “for gods sake, stop pretending you don’t know what I’m on about”
Me “I genuinely don’t know what you’re on about”
DH “I’m on about that notepad your mum gave her last weekend, why do you have to be so annoying”

Is does my freaking head in.
Why does he expect me to guess what he’s talking about from a vague sentence.
I’m not a mind reader!
I’m not doing it on purpose and I’m not being annoying or doing it to wind him up.
Gffffrrrrrr.
If I had said “what book?” after his first remark then I’m accused of not listening! 🤷‍♀️

Do it to him. He sounds like a twat.

What a prick! I couldn’t live with him

99% of the time I have no issues with him.
1% of the time he does this.
I’m going to start doing it back!

I hate this!!! Do it back with the most obscure things you can think of

DH does similar - he's been having a conversation in his head, and then fires a random question at me. I have now started saying what, exactly, are you talking about?

Haha just glad I’m not the only one!
Bloody infuriating though!

My ex use to do this. I started to reply with. You need to be more specific. Use to drive me as too

DH does this, as do the kids. After telling "context!" at them for years, the kids now do it on my behalf. This is very gratifying.

(As a side story MIL once chided me saying that context was a confusing word but DSS2 aged four promptly gave her a clear definition and patted her on her hand. Marvellous wonderful child).

That is quite strange and somewhat annoying. But if he only does it 1% of the time and the rest of your relationship is loving and healthy then I'd choose to overlook it on the grounds that I almost certainly have my own annoying habits :)

If you genuinely don't think he's gaslighting or being abusive - then play with it a little.

"there's only 3 pages in her book"

"yeah, I know, it's so tiny!"

"do you even know what book Im talking about?"

"Of course I do... the one with 3 pages"

"What one with 3 pages"

"you know, the really short one"

"you mean the one that your mum gave her"

"No I mean the one you're talking about..."

Just take him round and round in circles until he eventually gives up. It'll turn an annoyance into fun. or it could start a row!

@rememberatime I salute you. That's brilliant!

My husband does this but doesn’t get annoyed when I don’t understand.

It feels like he’s had a conversation in his head and let me join in halfway through.

Rememberate wins

that would be my many years of living with a narcissist. you learn a few coping mechanisms!

I do this, it's because I'm away with the fairies. Doesn't need a real response just "yeah" and i carry on my own internal conversation

Replying with "Context?" works here. Usually we are a bit telepathic, we're both good at picking up from older conversations, but sometimes one of us has had a bit of a think and moved on far enough for it to be unrecognisable. Thus "Context?" - it's more polite than "What?" or "Uh?"!

It's a thing: DW is very very random where she tidies stuff to.

Me: where's the widget?
DW: in the kitchen....
Me: where in the kitchen?
DW: in the cupboard...
Me: which cupboard?
DW: the wall cupboard?

And on, and on,

She knows where it is, so it's bleeding obvious surely?

AS in our case.