Friends with benefits

[pinkpixie83]

Has anyone put ground rules into place before entering into something like this?

Yes.

Of course. Isn't that kind of the point?

Can I ask what kind of rules people use?

I'm seriously considering this at the moment... but I want to put some boundaries in place so no one gets hurt.

My main one is honesty - meaning we need to both be honest if things aren't working or whatever

Rules are great until emotions and reality set in, then everything turns to shit.

Yes. I have had a successful one for the past 4 years.

We do not meet each other's family.
We do not question each other about who else we may or may not be seeing.
We always use condoms, non negotiable.
If either of us is unhappy with the arrangement at any point we must tell each other.
If either of us meets someone else that we want a proper relationship with we must tell each other.

We both respect each other enough to stick to them.

This is quite good:

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/me-we/201502/what-it-really-means-be-friends-benefits%3famp

I would add, if one is getting feelings for the other it be brought up and must be openly discussed.
If one thinks that they can get the other one to love them and change them, without telling their FB then it is heading for disaster and someone is going to get hurt.
This has to be spoken about at the very beginning.

following, as i'm getting myself into this. although honesty is something we have both discussed and have been upfront that it will only be a fwb situation

I had one. Our rules were

No talk of feelings or missing eachother
No spending time together outside the bedroom
No staying the night
Be honest if it's not working
If feelings start then we stop
No meeting my family (I met him through his family and see them more than he does)

It worked well. Until we both ignored the feelings one, then one by one we ignored them all.

Thanks to mn, he is now my lovely dp and we cuddled up on his sofa. So.....we failed the FWB test

I think those rules would work....If you stick to them and don't let them slowly become relaxed.

Mine was the same as bitchqueen90s rules, when he met someone he wanted to settle down with we ended our arrangement and i met my partner not long after, we didnt fall out over it agreed to still be friends but without the benefits our partners get those instead

Personal opinion and experience .... one party is bound to grow more feelings and get hurt in the long run, but each to their own

@LittleMe03 that's your personal experience though, fwb has been a great experience for me and neither of us has ever grown feelings for the other. You can't say what is "bound" to happen when everyone is different.

@BitchQueen90 I agree with you.

Just sharing my personal opinion

Ageements should be

• Birth control
• When it should end
• Do you share with each other if you hooked up with other people
• To what extend is the friend part. Do you go to cinema? Or just sex?
• Are you to meet each others friends
• Do you tell people about hooking up

Rez rex
dont need birth control as older
as said when we met other people we wanted relationship with
no sharing it was end of
no social going out i went to his or he came to mine, but talked laughed had a meal and a drink, watched telly listened to music then bed and the visitor went home
no didnt meet his friends and he didnt meet mine
told a few of my friends without revealing names or details just that we were a FWB arrangement
and no as i had come out of a marriage where my husband had cheated on me no strings no emotions suited me down to the ground
neither of us fell for the other one so no heartbreak on split