I’ve been with my boyfriend for two years and I always thought we had a solid relationship. He has never given me any reason to doubt him, he has always been fantastic to me and I have never doubted his love for me until now.
He has two Facebook accounts - one personal and one for his business. I had a hunch a couple of days ago that something wasn’t quite right as he started to act a bit paranoid and worried I was cheating (I’m not). Please don’t judge me but I logged into his Facebook messenger for his business account (don’t know his password for his personal one) and I found that a month ago he had messaged a girl. It was an innocuous message that just said hey trouble how are you? She didn’t reply. However I’ve also seen he’s got the secret messages function turned on.
The thing is, there are messages on there between the two of them from four years ago when he was with his ex girlfriend. In the messages he is asking her to come round but this girl tells him to leave her alone as she knows he has a girlfriend. His reply was ‘that’s never stopped you in the past’ so obviously he cheated on his ex.
I’m 8 weeks pregnant and in a bit of a mess. My gut is telling me to walk but I don’t know if I’m over reacting. There’s no sign that he cheated but it looks like the intent could have been there. He always tells me he’s not so much as looked at another woman since he’s been with me but clearly that’s not true. Also I don’t want to confront him over this as I don’t want him to know that I snooped. I’m all over the place but I don’t know if it’s hormones or if what he’s done is unforgivable.