When they leave.

[sadwithkiddies]

Trying to be vague as dh knows i read mn.
Dh has left. After 20 years together. We have several children, one of whom is very sick.
Can I ask what a normal financial settlement is? - we own the house with a small mortgage.
Can I ask what normal contact is? Especially if anyone here has a sick child involved....dh cannot do some of the care needed (either me or hospital only)
Thanks!

You need some legal advice.
Have a look around and find a family solicitor that offers a free half hour.
They can give you an idea.
Do you work?
You can check what he should be paying in child maintenance HERE
Also have a chat with CAB as they may be able to give some advice as well.
Do you know what he earns?
Gather what information you can.
His wage.
His pension.
Mortgage info.
Bill info.
Assets info.
Savings
Bank accounts
etc.......

I'm so sorry. You should contact a solicitor to get good advice. take copies of all paperwork. PP above has a good list of things you'll need.

thanks.
i have most the info as i have always done all the banking.
i'm trying to work out what is fair for the future given he has walked away and i cannot work due to my sick child.