Partner started working away

[Amberhoney78]

Hi.. new to this but need help..
My partner has started working away Monday to Friday and I am a complete mess... I know I’m being pathetic and need to snap out of it but I can’t.. anyone in a similar situation?

For us the hardest part was the rejoining having been away. I’d have routine and rules in place which he inadvertently undermined because he didn’t know them. Fridays were, for a while, the time we argued. We’d been looking forward to seeing each other but then life got in the way. He’d been away and wanted cosy weekends in. I’d had children, children and nothing but children and wanted to go out.

We adjusted, as you will but it is hard at first.

Does your relationship suffer from it?

Not in the longer term. There were miserable weekends when we were cross with each other but we worked out what worked for us. He’s always had to work away quite a lot and even now the children are grown. Tonight he’ll be back from London about midnight having been away two days. I went to book club.
Sometimes having space and friendships outside of the ‘coupleness’ is a good thing. You need to trust each other, continue to find ways of communicating and have your own interests.

Pleased to read things are better 👍 hope the future is good for you all.