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Is it possible to actually loose your (dating) mojo?

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Bubblesandcake · 26/09/2018 19:15

I'm not excited about dating! I want to be!
I'm a single mum studying a nursing degree and I feel lonely most of the time. Wherever I go on placement and even when chatting to uni friends, they all have a life. I don't! That's quite sad!
I had an appointment with a counsellor yesterday through uni as I have struggled with the course and juggling being a single mum whilst working. Opening up helped but I was so embarrassed to say I don't have a life. I don't have friends. I really have tried but everyone is busy and I don't get much support with my dd's. I know it's up to me to make it happen but....I feel I have lost interest in everything. Nothing excites me. I can't get motivated to exercise. I have had to be really hard on myself regarding how much wine I drink as I was numbing the loneliness with that. I thought I'd try dating but have no excitement there either. I would like to meet someone.
I'm not depressed. I'm functioning. I plan. I work. I study. I am a mum to 2 busy dd's, who have lots of out of school activities. I just don't enjoy being alone and I would love to know how to enjoy being alone. To be happy alone.
I don't want medication...but ask do I need it?

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MegFlyAway2 · 26/09/2018 19:49

You say you chat to uni friends, do they ever do anything social? Anyone you could invite for lunch, study together etc?

I know you say you can’t motivate yourself for exercise, but once you know how good it makes you feel afterwards it can get addictive. It can also be social! Do you have time to join a fitness class, boot camp, CrossFit gym? They can all be really social! I have made a lot of friends through mine and end up doing other social activities with them.

I wouldn’t worry about dating when you feel the way you do now. If you can get yourself feeling good about yourself, you will probably find the mojo for it later!

Bubblesandcake · 27/09/2018 07:10

They're people I have met through uni, not friends as such. Nobody I could really meet up with as friends.
I wake up every morning dreading the day with nothing to look forward to. Maybe I do need meditation as this isn't getting better.
It would be nice to be with someone to make plans with. The weekends are awful.
I feel guilty feeling this as there are so many other people worse off. I'm trying to shift this feeling but find it impossible. I'm usually really good at helping myself. Finding something to motivate me, make plans and have hope. It's all gone. I now feel...what's the point!

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