FEel like I can’t cope

[AlwaysSunshine81]

Hi.
Not sure if this comes under separation/ relationships or health!
I split with my ex last May. Met someone in September but have kept it very casual but expressed our feelings are stronger now. He isn’t ready to spend time with my 3 kids... I’m a bit unsure about the whole relationship as there’s been a couple of red flags for me recently. When I see him we seem to have a nice time together but we normally drink however I get anxious when I’m due to see him and start thinking I don’t want to see him.
I’ve been stressing for a couple of weeks about it now that I don’t need think I want to see him and maybe I need time on my own. I am drinking quite a lot which I want to stop and want to start eating healthy as I feel fat. I go to the gym 4/5 tines a week. I want to change my life around.
I don’t sleep well cos my little one wakes me 2/3 night for a wee and I feel constantly tired. Evenings are boring and I sit and drink wine.
I feel hits depressed and don’t really know what to do. Sorry to rant but had to get it out

The drinking will make you anxious and depressed. I think quitting it is a good idea for now while you seem to be relying on it as a crutch.

Why do you not want to meet the new man? Are the red flags that worrying?

Read your post back to yourself and I think you'll see it's obvious what you need to do. There's something not quite right away this man you're dating, and he's bringing a lot of anxiety into your life. Maybe you can't exactly put your finger on it, but that's irrelevant. Listen to your instincts. This isn't the relationship for you. You need time to get to know yourself again and to deal with your new reality without drinking. You can do this!