Desperate for love.

[Nessabban]

Hi,I'm a 49 yrs male.I've been single for 10 yrs.The thing is that I yearn for female company.The problem is that I am shy.If I go out,I go out on my own.

Over the past 10 years,I was unemployed and only worked sporadically.I also had a problem with neighbour from hell which put my mental health over the edge.

I also lost my mother which has kick started,me going to the gym,loosing 6st,from 18 to 12.I also got dental work done which has made.me smile and feel a lot happier.
This is why,I am looking for female company.I am so out of it that I can't tell if they like me or not.If I go to a pub,I just sit in the corner and stand like a lemon.What I really want to do is talk to everyone but I know that I would get funny looks from people.

I have tried old but as I am in the Highlands is Scotland,there ain't too many women that I fancy and also don't get any replies..Maybe I am doing something wrong?.I don't know it's just I haven't dated for so long that I don't any signals.I also have a confidence issue as I suppose I don't want to make someone feel uncomfortable or I feel embarrassed..

Anything At all is much appreciated...

I think you sound lovely. My first thought is that you should stop hiding away in the corner! Sit at the bar, walk around and engage with people, both male and female. Try to stop worrying about what others may think or whether you're missing signals. Being comfortable socialising is just like anything else, it takes practice! Once you unburden yourself with the silly thoughts of what other people are thinking, that's when things will really start to happen for you, I'm sure of it. Self-confidence is always the most attractive trait for any potential partner.

My advice would be that the pub has to be just about the worst place to meet people. I would look for other opportunities, such as joining clubs and societies. They could be book clubs, photography clubs, art classes, language classes, in fact just about anything. They will have a structure that does not allow standing in the corner. Why not consider volunteering, as well? Even in the Highlands there must be plenty of organisations eager to make use of your time and you'll get to interact with people in situations less stressful than gawping at them from a barstool.

Rome wasn't built in a day and it took a long time to get yourself into this situation, so it will not be solved in the blink of an eye. Best wishes on your journey to a new you.