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Help me understand this girl please

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shypshnius · 26/09/2018 13:55

So i've met this new girl on tinder like 2 months ago. We used to chat every single day for like a month before we finally met 3 times. (she lives quite far so..). The thing is, she went to another country like 3 weeks ago to earn some money. She was planning to stay there for 2 months. We were still getting in contact with each other every single day, i usually called her twice a week too and we had great converstations even though she admitted that she feels quite depressed there and is usually really sad/in a bad mood. But the thing is: when i messaged her 3 days ago, she just randomly replied with: "we can't talk anymore, please do not message me anymore". I got really confused since i really liked this girl and i asked her what's wrong. She just told me that, every time she talked on phone with me, she felt like she was getting really attached to me and she doesn't want it. She also said: "i will message you myself when i can but it might take a long long time". I just wished her good luck and that's how it ended.. I feel really sad since we used to talk for like 2 straight months, almost every day.. The 3 dates we had were also great, in a romantic case too. So i really can't tell why she decided to cut all the contact with me..

Any opinions appreciated. Thank you!

OP posts:
HowlsMovingBungalow · 26/09/2018 14:00

you've been played.

cakecakecheese · 26/09/2018 14:03

I'm not really sure what you you're asking? For whatever reason she's decided she doesn't want to take things further with you. It must be disappointing and frustrating as you've not really got a satisfactory explanation but all you can do is respect her wishes and try to move on.

mooncuplanding · 26/09/2018 14:06

Are you a boy?

Or a MAN talking to 'girls' online?

Bit odd if you are the latter

Buzzlightyearsbumchin · 26/09/2018 14:08

She has met someone else and wants to see how it plays out with them before she goes back to you for an ego boost of she needs too.

QuimNiceButDim · 26/09/2018 14:09

She is like so like not like into you. Like.

SomeKnobend · 26/09/2018 14:11

She told you to leave her alone. Just leave her alone!

hellsbellsmelons · 26/09/2018 14:24

Oh Quim that it's exactly what I wanted to say..... LIKE!

OP - Just back off.
Find someone closer to you to build a relationship with.
My tinder settings are at 30 kms.
Really CBA with travelling miles to see someone.
And maybe try POF. You can message anyone on that site!

Charlottesshoezzzz · 26/09/2018 15:43

This OP ....

She just told me that, every time she talked on phone with me, she felt like she was getting really attached to me and she doesn't want it.

Is NOT the kind of talk you would get from a girl that is interested in you romantically! She said the above to soften the blow of not being that interested. Women that want the guy do not just throw it all away like that.

Respect her wishes, forget about her & move on.

OLD is brutal nowadays, put your efforts into contacting someone new.

Charlottesshoezzzz · 26/09/2018 15:45

And to talk for 2 months & have 3 dates is nothing... it's the period of just getting to know someone that's all.

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